How might this turn out? Understanding the karma/chemistry

[moonlionness]

Hi everyone, firstly thank you so much for your help and insight.
This man and I fell madly in love last year and shared six insanely profound weeks navigating the blast-off we were in. He was with another woman too, (we were all consensual), and this was new for all three of us. Normally I'd never go for that, but as you can probably (maybe?) see from the chart, the meeting HAD to happen.

Eventually he had to leave to go home to his country and I anyway called it off because I could not handle the open dynamic anymore. He expressed that we felt like an open book, one with many unknown chapters with everything possible; and being 29, that he wasn't ready to stand by my side (his words).

Well, over the summer the other girl went to go work with him and his friends, and there things progressed between them and now they're in a relationship. She's 22, he's 29, I'm 40. He's in his Saturn Return.

We just reconnected (with boundaries) (he's back in town) and the connection is just still so crazy profound, I can't imagine that we wouldn't end up together at some point. It is feeling more pre-ordained than ever and I find myself staring at the stars, trying to decipher a clue here about what might come to be. I feel like I trust our love, whatever it will or will not be. Yet at the same time, I can't really imagine that we won't be together again. (To me, it seems the relationship he's in now is triggering/healing and not forever.)


My question for you all is: Do you see some sort of fatedness reflected in our composite/synastry? I am trying to trust the depth of conviction I have about this love. I have had big loves in my life, but this one feels like God tapping me on the shoulder saying "here he is!" (Btw, the love making was like a holographic heaven dream.)

Looks like our composite north node is 0degrees on the vertex? Love stellium in the 5th/6th with positively aspected Saturn/Neptune in Cap conjunct in the 7th. I think a grand trine is in our synastry too.

My exact Aquarius Mercury / Scorpio Pluto and 7th house Saturn conj Mars (Scorpio) can't wait to hear from you! Ha

Thank you so much.

Synastry and composite here. I'm the Aries ascendent. (Btw, if you know how to figure out the Eros/Psyche aspect, I'd love to get to that too!)

[Ava]

Hi moonlionness ,

You're not a Leo moon?

Yes I see the fatedness.

It's pretty karmic: your sun squares his nodes, his sun squares yours. So the composite sun squares the NN, and of course the sun is conjunct Mercury-Jupiter-Venus. Despite the age difference it's understandable that you two found each other and hit it off. You also have moon trine moon, Mercury trine Mercury, Mars trine Mars, and a sun trine Venus double whammy. I would just expect for you two to have a really strong rapport. Your Venus conjunct his Uranus-Neptune also looks out of this world. I could go on....

I hear you about your sense of the future and maybe you are right. However I would definitely put up some psychic boundaries while he's still with another girl. Also take his word for it that he's not ready to stand by your side. That is such a Virgo thing to say. They can be blunt as hell.

To locate Eros and Psyche you can draw up the charts at astro.com and type 433, 16 into the asteroid field. I'd also check Juno. (FWIW I think asteroids aren't even necessary to illustrate the potency of this connection.)

Transiting Mars and Venus are on your sun, squaring Uranus, so it's no wonder if you feel particularly interested in this at the moment. That ought to ease up in the next few weeks (I think?)

Best of luck! And I hope others answer....

[12YearsABlob]

In addition to what Ava said, you seem to have Uranus on the SN. The excitement and unpredictability is what gets you, it almost feels like your comfort zone? With his Neptune & Uranus on your Venus, and your Pluto on his Venus, I see why you're so attracted. It certainly has the signature of a strong infatuation.

In your composite, there is goodwill (Venus-Jupiter), mental rapport (Sun-Mercury), and physical chemsitry/teamwork (Mars-Pluto). However, the moon is kind of isolated with Chiron and these different pockets of your relationship are not interacting with one another. With one of the luminaries disconnected from the other, or the rest of the chart, I've noticed that the relationship can become compartmentalized. For example, your chemistry might be great but on an emotional level, you seem like a completely different couple.

Mar 5, 2024 4:03:01 GMT Ava said:

Also take his word for it that he's not ready to stand by your side. 

I would also take him at his word. He's at the beginning of his Saturn Return, isn't he? That can be an intense period for most people. 

However, I don't know your experience, so all the best either way.

[moonlionness]

@12yearsablob

thank you for your reply! it's so quiet here:) or in this thread, anyway.

what you wrote is very helpful. i was wondering about that rather un-aspected moon!

[12YearsABlob]

Glad it was helpful. This forum can be a bit slow, but with more people (like you) joining and posting, it might pick up.
Feel free to comment on existing threads too, everyone is welcome.

[moonlionness]

Cool, I will chime in where I think I might be useful, or when I have a question. Can you tell me how to tag someone though? I thought I followed the instructions provided here, but it appears I did not manage to tag you correctly in the earlier post. Thank you!

[12YearsABlob]

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