Moon/ Mercury in synastry

[Ava]

This is one of my favorites. I think if the moon and Mercury are even in the same sign, there tends to be mutual understanding.

In this instance, I think a wide orb is still applicable. I know that's controversial. But I think even a 15° conjunction will be beneficial, so long as the planets are in the same sign.

If I think of my longstanding friendships and my marriage, there is always a moon-Mercury aspect going at least one way, and often it goes both ways. This is especially true since I am breaking the rules and using wide orbs...or ignoring orbs altogether.

My Mercury is tightly trine my husband's moon, but I also consider his Virgo Mercury opposing my moon by sign. Virgo analytics break through my fog and I appreciate this influence in my life. Even with a 17° orb.

(I know what some of you are thinking, he's not breaking my fog enough if I use the phrase "17° orb" in all seriousness after more than a decade of learning astrology. So I am inadvertantly discounting my own hypothesis. But I'm AWARE of that, so  everything balances out I think.)

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Anyway have you noticed moon-Mercury aspects playing a strong role in your life?

cafeastrology.com/synastry/moon_mercury_aspects.html

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Ava , I know that Moon/Mercury aspects translate into being on the same wavelength or simpatico. I had this with an ex - his Moon was the same degree as my Mercury and the mutual understanding was effortless. His Mercury trined my Mars, but didn't aspect my Moon.

My Moon - 22 Aqua 
His Mercury - 7 Virgo

His Moon - 13 Libra
My Mercury - 13 Libra

[Ava]

Thank you for that example @astrokeen . I'd imagine there would be a lot of harmonious, smooth communication with this conjunction in Libra.

I've never dated anyone whose Mercury was in Pisces (conjunct my moon), or whose moon was in Aquarius (conjunct my Mercury). I wonder what the difference might be.

I believe other factors play a role of course. My Aqua Mercury seems to entertain my husband's Libra moon and keeps the energy "percolating" so things don't get stale. His impeccable taste about certain things genuinely impresses me and I vocalize that. It's a relationship asset when other factors are weighing on us.

Not saying moon-Mercury alone is a holy grail of compatibility of course, but I think it's really good.

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Ava, I think this aspect could be a binding one as well. Even though it was impractical to continue with the relationship, we didn't let go for years. There may have been other binding aspects too.

[midnight]

My husband's Cancer Moon is sextile my Virgo Mercury exact. It's really easy to talk to each other, we have a lot of things in common and are pretty open with each other. (My Sun is sextile his Mercury, also exact, so that might help, too).

The interesting thing is, there's a new person in my work, he's in his early 20s but we have so much in common, even our education and interests, similar opinions, despite our age gap. I thought we must have Mercuries or Venuses in a flowy aspect. Just now I've checked our charts. My Mercury is the same sign as his Moon (could be conjunct depending on his tob) and his Mercury is the same sign as my Moon (too far apart but could be something there in Ava theory)

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How would you compare Moon/ Mercury aspects with Sun/Venus? The latter also creates a sense of harmony and common interests and perhaps more overt appreciation.

I had both Sun/Venus (both ways - a trine and a square) and Moon/Mercury with the same person.

[lumina]

I have two colleagues, I and J, whose Mercury is conjunct my Moon (4 degree and 1 degree orb).
Someone from my virtual world has Mercury (and Mars) conjunct my Moon (4 and 3 degrees).
And then there is of course P, whose Moon (and Sun) are conjunct my Mercury (and Sun) - well his Moon to my Mercury is about 3 degrees. 

So this is quite interesting. 

Especially with the first two I can say, that we really get along greatly, especially with J, who incidentally has the tightest orb of his Mercury to my Moon, but there are other things in play, there`s a very flowing natural "getting each other" I suppose. 

[Ava]

Thanks for the replies, ladies.


"How would you compare Moon/ Mercury aspects with Sun/Venus?"

Hmm

sun - being, doing
moon - internally feeling
Mercury - thinking, communicating
Venus - craving, appreciating

As I see it, Venus may deeply appreciate something about the sun, based on similarities if they are in the same element or gender (conjunction/trine/sextile). There is usually a good vibe between them or at least mutual tolerance if other factors are creating friction. Because Venus is feminine and more receptive, and the sun has agency and is enormous, I think Venus may be sensitive to the sun's ego displays; Venus may sometimes feel the sun person is overdoing it or taking the driver's seat and not noticing Venus enough. Venus might go along with it and still appreciate the person, but it's not a balanced match like sun/sun aspects. In my little opinion.

Meanwhile, moon/Mercury positive aspects and conjunctions are generally good for being on the same wavelength. Both are pretty changeable: Mercury is quick and the moon's light varies. Positive aspects indicate adaptability, flexibility and a large playing field to accommodate many different outcomes, including animosity. It seems to root out fakeness. Might be problematic for people who enjoy their own privacy to work with a tight moon-Mercury conjunction, because they will both sense so much about each other. Even if the compatibility is strong they might want a break just to be themselves and not think about their feelings, explain feelings, get emotional about words, etc. But then they usually both seem to get that, in my experience. There's trust.

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Lovely analysis, Ava

[Ava]

Thank you @astrokeen,

If anyone disagrees with that, please let me know....I just toss up ideas as they come to me.

[lumina]

Ava

To me it Sounds very spot in. Perfectly Put. 👍

[12YearsABlob]

I think mercury aspects in general are underrated!

Moon-mercury can be great, ofc. Since the moon is such a vulnerable part of ourselves, anything in close contact with it is felt very deeply, for better or worse. For example, if someone's mercury is on your moon, they 'get' you. They might give voice to the moon's feelings, thereby making them feel understood. On the other hand, their words could really cut to the quick, leaving the moon with no defences. Generally, it's more difficult if the moon is afflicted, although both bring their 'issues' like any other aspect.

Another thing to consider is the subjective vs objective nature of the moon & mercury. Mercury might unintentionally hurt the moon by rationalizing or intellectualizing their feelings instead of simply comforting them. The moon might annoy mercury by taking things too personally.

Having said that, I do love mercury aspects. Musicians with their moon on my mercury are some of my favourites.

P.S. Moon-mercury aspects, when they work, seem like 'best friend' aspects to me. 

[12YearsABlob]

'Adding to what I said above because I was a bit of a negative Nelly there. 

Good moon-mercury aspects can also indicate a certain intuition between the two of you. You can sort of read each other's minds. While Neptune usually gets credit for telepathy (it can be projection at times), the moon-mercury combo is no slouch in that department either. 

Another thing I've noticed is the importance of mutual memories. Moon-mercury in synastry love to make memories with each other and reminisce with fondness, no matter how short a while you've known each other. You could have inside jokes and a shared nostalgia without needing years of build-up. The longer it gets, the stronger it is. But even if you've only met them a few times, this vibe is present (to varying degrees, depending on the rest of the synastry).

[Ava]

I was smiling and laughing to read that 12YearsABlob because my best friend whom I've known since I was 7 loves to walk down "memory lane" with me. And it always warms my heart. Her sun-Mercury conjunct my moon.

I'll be stressed out, and she'll manage to get on the topic of us riding our bikes next to the railroad tracks to go visit the guy she liked at work, and who else was there, and even sometimes she knows what everyone was wearing (her memory is phenomenal) and where we stopped for ice cream on the way back. (Recent example.)

We're kind of timeless because even as kids we planned to be old ladies together.

[Ava]

Moon square Mercury -- I have this with my ex. She talks about the people needing a break from each other because the misunderstandings can be so frustrating.

[12YearsABlob]

Aww, this is such a sad aspect to have. You could love each other and still misunderstand one another. Some of the comments under this video are actually nice.

"As the mercury person in this inter-aspect, I can say that I have learned that my trying to understanding the moon's persons feelings in my own language had led to assumptions that were completely off. In order to understand, the best thing I've learned was to ask questions, until...something clicks in my head. The desire to understand truly is there and I can say it was never an intention to hurt the moon's feelings. Another realization, as you've pointed out, is accepting even if I don't understand; while something may not be rational to me or even valid, it is to them.
It's a habit I try to instil in myself with just about anyone...most of the time." - '@brien.1810'