Man's "fem" planets conjunct woman's "masc".

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[Ava]

His Venus conjunct my Mars in Gemini --

I had this with a coworker, not a great example since nothing ever happened, but he is kind of outspoken, loud, brash. I felt like I had a calming effect on him. Maybe it was this. It was as if he was trying to use words to get attention, but with the right kind of attention (more serious and probing, actually asking him direct questions and getting him to keep backing up what he was saying) he would settle down while explaining himself point for point (exhibited the more demure, feminine quality?).

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Just off the top of my head.

[Ava]

It occurs to me as an afterthought I was briefly romantically involved with a guy born just before my coworker, same year. That was the only time in my life I ever made the first move (a little drunk).

He was ALWAYS calm around me, not a loudmouth like my co-worker, but then he was also much more intelligent. So as for the Gemini energy, I was more talkative with my Gem Mars, but he would occasionally supplement what I had said with some truly profound philosophical side note...something "Plato would agree with you because..." and that was always appreciated, to say the least, especially if anyone else was standing around to hear this. lol

However, his Mars conjunct my moon (another male/female conjunction) which overwhelmed that delicate balance, no can do. People describe Pisces Mars as if it is a Pisces moon, as if they are equally passive. No, Mars is Mars.

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[anela]

I used to be passive.  Circumstances changed that, but I was well into adulthood.  Even when my BIL hit on me the first time, he was the one to cause a big fight.  He was yelling about my avoiding him.  He was also escorted out of the house for the night, but my sister begged my parents to bring him back the next day.  🙄

his Gemini mars is conjunct my moon, Venus and south node, square my mars, in conjunct Uranus/ascendant.  I do not like mars on my moon/Venus.  I keep seeing posts from people who love it, because: sex.  Nope. It repels me.  His Venus is also square my Saturn.  

my sister has a Pisces moon, and she was passive with people outside immediate family.  Square mars in Sadge. She could never handle what she put me through. She’s also big on denial.  I can be, for different reasons. I used to forgive and forget, but I will never forget what she put me through.  When we were temporarily sisters again, I didn’t feel like I could fully trust her, and I was right.  

[vg]

I've had this with two people, man's venus conjunct my mars(one i dated one i didnt). With the one i dated(the aspect was very wide) it was me who made the first move(as in saying i liked them) but only after knowing for sure they liked me. Both persons i found very slow to act on anything.

[12YearsABlob]

The answer to this, it would seem, like most things, is 'it depends.' Lol. IMO, it depends on the strength of the individual planets in their charts and how comfortable each person is with their own masculine/feminine energy.

Like Ava said, sometimes the 'reversal' is needed for balancing the energy. I'm already very moon-ey and, I don't want to say passive but yeah, sort of passive and massively sensitive. If there's further pressure on that - say, a Saturn hard aspect - it's bye-bye me. Since I find it hard to be assertive in general (less so as I get older), it helps if my 'masculine' planets receive a boost from someone's yin planets. Because yin energy is supportive and soft and encouraging. 

Of course, both kinds of aspects have their own appeal, but this is about the male's yin and female's yang. 

[12YearsABlob]

Some examples of my own.
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Man's Venus conjunct my Mars: Not a romantic connection. But Venus is very sensitive & touchy-feely. So, the first time we met, he simply said "I'm going to give you a hug" and did. He knew some of my background, so it was a comforting/supportive gesture.
He really loved it when I took initiative of any sort. 'Wanted me to be more ~martian~ (my mars is sadly square Saturn so it needs a lot of cheerleading). For example, I couldn't meet him 'coz he was very busy. He said, "you should've just barged in."

Man's Venus opp. my Mars & square my Saturn: This guy is an Aries. He gets really frustrated with me sometimes because I'm very timid (in some ways). However, one day, we were discussing him doing 'x' and I said "No! You're not doing that." "Why?" "Because I say so." He smiled and acquiesced. Which, for him, was a big thing coz ya know. Headstrong Aries wants to do a thing. Besides, he's kind of my boss, so... xD

Man's Moon square my Mars & opp Saturn: Two folks. #1: There's drama, but he likes it (Leo moon). #2: He gets offended by the most innocuous things. I guess I come off as abrasive

Man's Moon conjunct/opp. my Sun: Right now, my progressed moon in Aries has dragged in two guys with their moons opposite my Sun. There's a third with a Libra moon that is most probably conjunct my Sun. We're all new to one another. I've known one of them slightly longer. Cancer sun/merc with Aries moon and Gemini Venus/Mars. He has no qualms about reaching out to me for help (we're colleagues). Doesn't take himself too seriously, and is appreciative. 'Will report back if there is more to say about the others.

[Ava]

Thanks for the examples 12YearsABlob

Man's Venus conjunct my Mars - I got hugs, too, reliably. Standard greeting.

[lumina]

Reading that next time I Really should See Jude Law at the stagedoor then 😅

His Venus Is widely conjuncts my Mars +and ASC, Neptune and NN) actually His Venus/Mars mp falls right in between my Mars and ASC, partile conjuncts both.

I mean I wouldnt say No to a hug. 😁


(Think the universe is listening? 😉)

[Ava]

Well you learn quick, lumina !

Let us know how it goes.

My Venus is conjunct your Mars and if I ever meet you in person I'm hugging you, too.

No you can't back away and say "meh" with your body language.

I didn't hop on a plane and circle half the globe just to fist bump you. lol

Anyway, I finally got around to stalking my (likable) college stalker and according to one of these contemptible sites that hoard and sell information on people, his birthday is not what I thought. I knew he was a Scorpio, but I thought it was first decan. According to them it's third decan. If that's his actual birthday, his Venus widely conjunct my sun, his moon in Cancer more or less opposing my sun. His Mars in Aries might explain the extremely direct pursuit.

I thought he was Sag Venus but come to think of it he was a lot more demure than me and Cap Venus makes sense. I mean even though he was the one showing up at my classrooms after class to walk me back to my dorm (weird), I would say "Hi!!!!" and drive the conversation and pretend it wasn't awkward. Moon trine moon might account for our deeper chemistry. Also if he's a Cancer moon that would explain the end of this "relationship" where I was in a bad mood once when he called, and sounded sort of flat, and I never heard from him again. I guess he was sensitive.

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[lumina]

Ava

You Made my day! 😁😅 So hilarious how you describes IT.

And WE absolutely would have a huge hug for Sure! 🤗

I am also Not Like I've been in earlier years, much more prone to hug These days, though still Kind of selektive about IT.

Love the Stalker Story, too. Also cancer Moon,, sensitive? You don't say!! 😯

[12YearsABlob]

Sorry about your cancer moon boyfriend, Ava . Cancer moons do tend to sulk, we have that in common, lol. However, the permanent ghosting is something else. I wonder what else was going on in your synastry or his natal. Some folks are simply skittish.

[Ava]

lumina, hooray! I wouldn't want to have to actually tackle you to get my hug.

Americans are something else, but I didn't want to have to do that. 😅

12YearsABlob, he wasn't my boyfriend, he was honestly more like a stalker. He looked up my phone number and called me (never asked for my number), he looked up my schedule somehow and would show up at my classrooms to walk me home. He often showed up at my job. He and I had the same job as writing tutors and that was fine by me because he was better at the job and I'd let him do the work. He's an English professor now. He was brilliant, just not about dating.