Moon Conjunct Lilith Synastry

[geminiblues]

Question... Is woman's lilith conjunct man's moon a red flag, or more a caution and warning? Orb 1° and a couple minutes

[lumina]

Well I am peculiar when it comes to Lilith, I don`t use the mean Lilith at all. (still researching true and natural Lilith).

But anyway if in a chart (not synastry) Lilith is conjunct Moon, it means the Moon is at its apogee and farthest away from earth, it looks much smaller than usually. It`s obviously also closer to the Sun.

Basically I interprete that as that Lilith does indeed have very strong feelings and desires, but that even in the case she should be passionate about someone, she will not make compromises, her independence always comes first. she won`t melt with the other person, she will always be her own, equal partners, but two partners (not that feeling of one-ness).

But on the other hand she can be a fierce companion, if her needs of independence are being met, not afraid to go the taboo route (also often lilith is considered the "other woman", but mostly it is just that she doe snot like to play along with society rules).

Anyway I think this could be an emotionall very passionate connection, but Moon has to accept that he will never "own" Lilith. It really depends on that Moon, if it is a posessive jealous Moon that could be problematic, though extremely intense of course. If it is a Moon that is okay with his partner doing her own thing now and then and then, and also rebelling about certain conventions, then this could be very precious i think. A very authentic honest emotional rapport. But it takes strength (especially if certain parts of the relationship might be considered taboo or rule-breakin).

[geminiblues]

Thanks for the input lumina (and Ava). I'd love to share the full synastry, but I don't have permission yet. Perhaps, as things unfold...

The moon lilith in question is leo in the 10th for both charts. I do see the Independence part and maybe some of the other stuff, but then again, she is a fellow 8th house sun as well as an 8th house moon. 8th house moons tend to be my "Shelby" if you catch the "Gone In Sixty Seconds" reference...


Other features of the charts are sun conjunct sun exact, Asc conjunct asc 2° orb, (same birth day, birth time less than a half hour apart, different year) moon semi square moon, but moon conunct her lilith one way, her moon conjunct my Venus and north node the other (3° and out of sign, but still...) and therefore her moon conjunct sun 7° orb. Her mars square my mars but her mars sextile my sun, her Venus sextile my Venus and conjunct my (our) Dec. Her Venus my mars and jupiter in same sign and 7th house.

My natal is damn near her solar return chart for a very early age.

It's taken approximately 4 years to go from meeting once at an unlikely social event, to low key flirting on facebook to a scheduled upcoming phone call. Yeah, mars in taraus can be like that... Especially in a pandemic. So, I think I've satisfied the "letting her do her own thing" part so far...

I also think the Uranus transit through Taurus is factoring in.

Anyway, please don't quote, as I will edit out the chart specifics later.

[Ava]

Interesting synastry and story geminiblues. Hope all goes well there. I'm glad you caught my post; deleted it because it seemed like just rambling.

[Ava]

Thanks for those insights lumina .

I was thinking, the moon here might play a role like the mother, sort of enabling Lilith to just act out and do its thing while the moon exudes softness and understanding. Lilith is raw emotion, so more like a child...it might represent the suppressed desires of the moon? As if Lilith is saying, "This is what you would do, if you were more active and wild, less passive."

[lumina]

Ava

I agree with everything you wrote there and think that is exactly how it could play out.

However the Moon is not necessarily "soft and understanding" by default. We often think of it that way, however the Moon represents the emotional makeup of a person, so if that emotional nature is not soft nor understanding, their Moon can`t represent this, but whatever the emotional nature of that person is will be triggered.(and of course in most cases softness and understanding will be a part of it anyway)

[Ava]

True lumina .

Just tinkering with possible scenarios as the moon is sometimes soft/maternal, moreso than any other regular planet. Somebody or something has to represent that energy? Maybe also, even with rough people, when their moon is approached a certain way, they are disarmed. It's gotta be some kind of "yin" energy, I assume.