Natal sextile in synastry

[Ava]

Generally speaking, sextiles represent a positive, easygoing flow of energy, and therefore might contribute to making a person even-keeled and agreeable in relationships. 

I have many sextiles in my natal chart:

- sun sextile moon
- sun sextile NN
- moon sextile SN
- Mercury sextile Venus
- Mars sextile Jupiter

I'm not always easygoing but have proven I can stick with one relationship for a really long time, even if it's not ideal. 

Two problems I have noticed:

a) If you have a sextile, there are two signs that form a trine with one of your planets while opposing the other.

For example, with my Cap sun sextile Pisces moon:

- Cancer is a complicated issue (Cancer opposes my sun, trines my moon)
- Virgo is a complicated issue (Virgo trines my sun, opposes my moon)

I am very easily emotionally affected by these signs and sometimes torn on which approach to take. For instance, my Pisces moon loves my Cancer stellium sister while my Cap sun feels like it could spend an eternity trying to get her to own up to her mischief. 

With Virgos, in relationships, my moon sometimes felt like "You're killing me here" while my sun gave no indication of problems and didn't even want there to be a problem. I was not exactly emotionally fluent.      

b) I seem to be strongly drawn to people with planets/points that fall on the midpoint between my sextile planets.

It makes sense if the midpoint between two sextile planets is sensitive; if another person's planet falls there, it will be semisextile (inconjunct) both of your planets. An astrologer I respect once told me that the semisextile has a Pisces energy to it, because it's 1/12th of the zodiac, and Pisces is the 12th sign, associated with twelfths. 

Other interpretations of semisextile resonate with that Piscean vagueness:

- "This aspect reveals opportunities that seem to go unnoticed." (Source)
- " It is often interpreted as some type of potential, according to the planets' nature, signs, and houses; but one that is difficult to realize due to the signs' incongruent natures." (Source)

In my case, my husband's SN is right on my Mars-Jupiter midpoint. It's a strong click there, forming the apex of an almost-perfect mini triangle. Yet it's hard to determine the overall effect on my sextile. I suppose there are positives and negatives, but the main issue is just the intractability of it. 

I've noticed the same with my Mercury-Venus sextile. Planets falling on their midpoint, I have trouble letting go of.   


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I don't know if others have had similar experiences or I'm just stretching this too far. 

Thoughts appreciated  


Pls don't quote

[FruityLlama]

Ahh no I'm so lazy with midpoints!!

Here are my sextiles:

Mercury 24 Tau- Saturn 21 Pis
Merc- ASC 21 Can
Merc- MC 19 Pis

Yes, so I suppose my biggest challenge will be Scorpio placements hitting those sextiles by trining my Saturn/Angles nicely but opposing my Mercury....ohhhhh....perhaps THIS is why I sometimes feel like being close to Scorpio's is difficult. I feel a real affinity with them but there seems to be a intuitive communication block at the same time. Like I'm not actually part of their pack or life in any way.
Capricorns can be the same, although I can generally converse with them very well. I can open up to them, and Virgo a lot easier than Scorpios. It's quite confusing, but perhaps this is the reason! Thank you for this food for thought @ava !

As I clumsily work out the midpoint for my Merc-Satun/MC, I do seem to like the company of Aries Venuses at around 22-23 degrees. EDIT: Just realised my Sun-Venus midpoint is at that degree too. A midpoint on a midpoint?!

For Merc-ASC...would it be a similar degree in Gemini? I suppose it would be, yes.. I don't know what the effect of this is though, I just know i get along with my semisextile friends...

I think that's the thing with sextiles though, as you said, the Piscean vagueness of it is probably part and parcel of the aspect itself. I see them as being little flowers slowly blooming into life. They don't hit you in the face, but if the midpoint is activated by someone else, it may help bringing the different energies together.
In the case of your husband's SN on your Mars-Jupiter, it depends on how you see the SN of course. I'm thinking it could be to do with the comfort of diving in to something..if that makes sense? I think you mentioned before that you got married quickly? Please forgive me if I have that wrong or it's too imposing of me. I'm just thinking that whatever connection the SN represents, landing on the Mars-Jupiter energy could stir up a feeling of confidence in striding forward together, not needing to nit pick at the details- action based on the bigger picture and a native confidence that is bestowed with your Jupiter energy.

Sextiles on midpoints really seems like intricate, gourmet cooking where you're mixing all sorts together!

[Ava]

Thanks FruityLlama

"....ohhhhh....perhaps THIS is why I sometimes feel like being close to Scorpio's is difficult. I feel a real affinity with them but there seems to be a intuitive communication block at the same time. Like I'm not actually part of their pack or life in any way."

Yeah that matches what I was putting out there. I wonder if we're onto something or not. lol

"A midpoint on a midpoint?!"

Yes. Mercury/Saturn = sun/Venus sounds cool, it's like your beauty is tied in with your ability to take things seriously, or you find thoughtful things beautiful? Though your avatar is more on the lighthearted side. Well these midpoints are in Aries, supposedly a child-like sign, and that llama is something from a kids' TV show? But the thing is, with Taurus Mercury sextile Pisces Saturn, I still think there must be a kind of spiritual poise and balance in your thought processes, and I'm guessing that could make you generally lighthearted, like you have faith in the universe, so why take life too seriously...that kind of thing? And then with sun/Venus overlapping that, there is added optimism.

"In the case of your husband's SN on your Mars-Jupiter, it depends on how you see the SN of course. I'm thinking it could be to do with the comfort of diving in to something..if that makes sense? I think you mentioned before that you got married quickly? Please forgive me if I have that wrong or it's too imposing of me. I'm just thinking that whatever connection the SN represents, landing on the Mars-Jupiter energy could stir up a feeling of confidence in striding forward together, not needing to nit pick at the details- action based on the bigger picture and a native confidence that is bestowed with your Jupiter energy."

That is such a good reading!!! Thank you! It's completely spot-on. And no, it's never imposing to mention I got married quickly. It's a cautionary tale: don't try this at home, kids. (Engaged after one date! #BewareUranus) 

"Sextiles on midpoints really seems like intricate, gourmet cooking where you're mixing all sorts together!"

Thank you, 'love that imagery. 

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To some astrologers, the sextile is an aspect of gift. The interpretation is different from the trine. It’s not a softer trine, since planets involved are from different modalities and elements. Thus natives with this aspect can ease through the challenge while the trine can create laziness. The sextile make you more dynamic.

I have an exact sextile of Pluto-mars, as well as not so exact to Venus. (Scorp to Cap).
I mean I like cancer alright, though they don’t jive with my sun/moon. I think cancerian energy irritates my luminaries more than any else. My Capricorn placements make me more sympathetic towards them.
My moon and sun technically sextile by sign, and my Saturn sextile my moon. And similarly I think libra energy irritate my Capricorn mars tbh but I have great relationships with a few libra. I don’t hate Libras (tho I complain a lot about them, but then I complain about many signs).


Funny thing if I have to rank the signs on how much I want them around me, cancer and libra would be last. So I guess maybe the sextile matters 😬

[anela]

Early Taurus/Scorpio sits between two of my sextiles (moon and venus - Jupiter), along with my descendant. I can't remember the others, if I have any.

[lumina]

I am starting to pay more attention to midpoint between planets that are in aspect. Very interesting. Like an own electric circuit.

[FruityLlama]

"Yes. Mercury/Saturn = sun/Venus sounds cool, it's like your beauty is tied in with your ability to take things seriously, or you find thoughtful things beautiful? Though your avatar is more on the lighthearted side. Well these midpoints are in Aries, supposedly a child-like sign, and that llama is something from a kids' TV show? But the thing is, with Taurus Mercury sextile Pisces Saturn, I still think there must be a kind of spiritual poise and balance in your thought processes, and I'm guessing that could make you generally lighthearted, like you have faith in the universe, so why take life too seriously...that kind of thing? And then with sun/Venus overlapping that, there is added optimism".

Hahaha!! Yes, my avatar is from a kids' TV show...I believe its called Shaun the Sheep! It's ever so cute- its created by those who created Wallace and Grommet...I don't know if that became a thing in America, but its a national treasure here. The characters are all made out of Plasticine as well. On a serious note, I am more of a rational thinker rather than pessimistic and I try to be optimistic where appropriate. I'm not OTT optimistic, but I suppose overall I am positive in my thoughts and I sometimes wonder if that is what gives me an inherent protective barrier or shield from mental illness. I've always felt my mind is the sturdiest part of me in terms of health so maybe that ties in with it somehow.

"That is such a good reading!!! Thank you! It's completely spot-on. And no, it's never imposing to mention I got married quickly. It's a cautionary tale: don't try this at home, kids. (Engaged after one date! #BewareUranus)"
Oh thank you! And you're welcome, I'm glad I wasn't typing a load of nonsense!! Haha hashtag noted as a 7H uranus!


I think I read somewhere that sextiles were not immediately felt either, like a flower slowly peeling its petals into bloom (sextiles are very inspiring to me right now!) which may coincide with the fact that they aren't as talked about as much perhaps generally? They seem as though they are the aspects with the biggest AHA! moment within them.

[Ava]

Aug 12, 2019 19:27:02 GMT FruityLlama said:

I think I read somewhere that sextiles were not immediately felt either, like a flower slowly peeling its petals into bloom (sextiles are very inspiring to me right now!) which may coincide with the fact that they aren't as talked about as much perhaps generally? They seem as though they are the aspects with the biggest AHA! moment within them.

Thanks for your feedback above, and I like this comment ^ 

I'm super tired at the moment but that's something to think about. I mean it intuitively feels correct but I don't know why. Maybe just the "rightness" of 60° aspects in a sexigesimal system. 

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To me sextiles and trines are felt as comfortable but there’s something really dynamic with sextile. Whereas trine is like... we are the same ppl, sextile has this complementary ping pong effects.
Like Aries -gem/ Leo libra/sag aqua
Or the other way aqua Aries/ gem-Leo/libra sag

Also when it’s in the same quadrant there’s a mutual orientation towards the world. If not then there’s a mild expansion/introduction to another viewpoint that doesn’t feel like a slap in the face.


I actually have always enjoyed gemini companies (sextile my moon)... just getting a hold of them in the long term is hard.

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Quick little rant: regarding Libra... actually I think I just hate to admit how important their viewpoint is, cause it’s maddening to me. Lots of important ppl in my life have had some sort of libra in them ... usually rising. I think I feel this way about them because they create a grand cross with me. It feels like they annoy me but I can’t escape them, like they’re meant to balance my extremes out....

The only sextile sign that I seem to have troubles getting alone is Leo

[Ava]

Aug 25, 2019 21:58:36 GMT @theunknown said:

Quick little rant: regarding Libra... actually I think I just hate to admit how important their viewpoint is, cause it’s maddening to me.

When I was younger, I had a hard time with some of my Libra friends. When I was in school and in this whole mindset of "this is right/correct" and "that is wrong/incorrect" (the way they grade our papers), I was less conscious of my own agendas. I didn't even realize that saying, "This is the Right Way" could be wrong. (If it *is* the Right Way, shouldn't everyone hear it?) But my Libra friends would push back hard if I ever tried to convince them of anything. 

"Look at it the other way, too".....UGH. 

But Libra Pluto rules my NN and I have grown into that same approach, or tried it on for size anyway. Trying to squelch some of my own intensity, or be intensely neutral. No wonder Libras read so much. To defend a neutral stance actually takes a lot of brainpower and justification, in a world that is more engulfed in competition over every little thing. 

[12YearsABlob]

Aug 25, 2019 21:58:36 GMT @theunknown said:

It feels like they annoy me but I can’t escape them, like

Lol... I feel like my friends would agree.

[12YearsABlob]

Re: sextiles...

I have mercury sextile Venus-Jupiter (Scorpio-Virgo). I haven't had much experience with Taurus except some inner planets. Taurus mercury I generally get along with, Venus is also fine, Mars - excellent until we reach a stalemate. Pisces, however, is hit or miss like you say. I've had Pisces friends, but it seems to fall apart at some point. Our combined water/earth energy keeps it going in some form or another, but the original thing is hard to maintain. They get me, but they also *don't* get me and it can be hard to punch through their projections. I don't even have the energy to, so I just give up.