How to capture the heart of a Scorpio

[Electrode]

Seeing the other threads I wanted to make one myself. Here are some tips on how to swoon a Scorpio you are falling for.

• Emotional Depth: They need someone who is emotionally understanding and transparent with them. Someone who just knocks off feelings as if they mean nothing, the typical "lol get over it" types won't do. Be emotionally understanding and honest with them. If they see any reason to believe dishonesty and/or trust is lost, such as hiding things from them or invalidating their feelings, they see no reason to share their feelings with you and the relationship won't work.

• Honesty: Lying to them will get you nowhere. If they decide to enter a relationship they expect everything to be completely open and known between the two. That means they will treat everything as it is a union ownership (all of this is OURS). They expect you to be upfront with everything; if you can't do that they don't see any reason as to why they should open up to you. Give them the respect of being vulnerable with them if you ever want to see their vulnerable side.

• Strength: Scorpio cannot stand weakness in others. They care for those who are suffering but those who are whiners, letting others walk all over them are qualities they cannot stand. They're looking for someone who is strong and willing to handle their emotional intensity. A lot of people have trouble dealing with this so don't be surprised if they don't engage with you because you can't handle them. They need the stability they are looking for in themselves.

• Committment: If they do get into a relationship with you they expect a long-term committment. Flighty types are not for them; they want someone who is willing to have an emotionally bonded and secure relationship with them. They have a lot of intense relationship needs and this take a lot of investment in the relationship so if you are wanting a relationship with them, be ready to get in it for the long haul. They put a lot of effort into their relationships.

• Loyalty: This is a major one. They are extremely loyal under the terms that you are the same with them. Cheat on them or act disloyal to them and their loyalty is as good as gone; Scorpios can be revenge-cheaters so watch where you step with them. They won't let this one slide and will make you pay for it.

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Yes!!!!! Thank you for this, I wanted to make this thread but I was too embarrassed lol I know nothing about wooing Scorpios so this is good info..

Although.. re: loyalty, commitment, I suppose this depends on the rest of their chart, right? Say if they had a Gemini Mars/Aries Venus all sextile/trine Uranus, they'd be a bit flightier and may not prize these qualities toooooo much? 

[Electrode]

Well of course the entire chart needs to be taken into account; this is more a general basis for Scorpio placements.

[12YearsABlob]

Isn't the real question how to get rid of them? 
Get that restraining order, STAT.

Lol, jk jk. I do agree with what you've written, Electrode .
Will be back when I can be serious about this...

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Oh lol Scorpios ... you guys know I am not about to go easy on ya... but you know there is always a light at the end of the tunnel with me.

This post, btw is applicable to sun/moon/personal planets aspecting pluto as well. And I have a highly aspected pluto myself (the only thing pluto doesn't touch in my chart is jupiter) ... so take it as a little self-reflective note written with love. 

I am here to disagree that Scorpios desire depth. Scorpios desire control, the control over their own life and those they see as an extension to them. Before we dig deeper, let's dissect the concept of loyalty; basically it means you have to be stuck by someone despite their bad decisions for the sake of history, you have to hang with the team even if that's not the best team possible, you have to disown your own agency, your own will for someone's feeling of safety. Sounds like being dragged to the underworld to me. 

Not all scorpios are deep and as a matter of fact it's hardly what they most value in someone either. Scorpios like to have a very private, extremely up close and personal to all of their subjects. That's why they are unforgettable, in both good and bad ways. And just because someone is willing to dig through all of your emails doesn't mean the relationship is built on depth ... more like paranoia, and the arrogance of somebody who desires to will the world their way. And they know people do not just submit themselves to scorps, so Scorpios have the desire to know you inside out as a mean of control (themselves or others). I wouldn't say they are in for the truth all the time. You have to be careful what you say around a scorpio/plutonic person or it can be taken the wrong way. Sags are the ones desiring the truth, they can see pass your rough demeaners for what you are. Not Scorps. They will take note of how you didn't pay attention and stepped on their toes and put you on a secret hit list. 

Scorpios are keenly aware that they are very sensitive though. Mostly because in early life, when they weren't so aware and played it rough, there were very real consequences that scarred them for life. That's when they realize how much things can hurt them. As they get older, they can become overly sensitive and protective of their loved ones. Everyone can be seen as a threat and they build ten feet walls around their own homes. So unlike Taurus who are pleasant at first before they turn into tornados swirling your path, Scorpios puff their chest, roar loudly first to scare you in hope that if you are not scared, you can become the ones they can trust. Scorpios are very trusting if they have a close bond with someone. The least trusting sign is Capricorn lol. 

In Scorps' youth, they usually are pretty brave, rash, sometimes reckless; they have lazor focus on something they are passionate about. All scorpios have a few interesting to say about their struggles through life and they have had moments where they rose above it all like a phoenix. The problem is as they hit their late 20s, 30s or so, they let fears creep up on them. They set these high standards for themselves that they become paralyzed by the fact they might possibly never be as great and brave and innocent as they once were. This is a very real thing with pluto-Sun people. So they became stuck in this underworld, they turned into a scorpion stinging itself rather than asking for help. Scorpios/Plutonic people have the common themes of experiencing major crisis before finally surrendering to life and let themselves be transformed by the world. An example is Ben Zander (Scorp Moon) who was very successful, paranoid, hard to live with when younger; as he got older, went through a divorce, he is now known as someone who inspires others to let go and be a humbled messenger of God/the universe. They learn that by roaring and making others prove themselves for them, they shut themselves down from the very thing they were born for - transformation. They learn to modify their strong likes and dislikes to compassion; they learn to see beyond themselves.

There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a scorpio/plutonic going through such transformation; there is also nothing more painful when one has to witness a plutonic person gets stuck in their lower vibrations - it is like watching a person with a tumor who refuses to go through surgery. And btw, many scorpios are self-deluding; they are not like cancers or pisces who wander off, they sweep things under the rug, lock their doors five times as means of control and withdrawal from reality. They blame others, they are condescending towards others because they somehow have come to believe their traumas and wounds are the worst trials of history. 

How to capture the heart of a scorpio? Be an enlightened Pisces lol. Support them through their rough times, be honest and compassionate and kind but firm when you need to be. Be a Taurus too - make them go through some quality control, make them understand they have to prove themselves for others before demanding the same things back. And especially, have your own life! All the online posts are about scorpios want to merge with you ... maybe during sex, lol but in real life scorps protect their assets, and even dig a tunnel beneath their house in case they have to escape from you. So hm ... why be completely transparent with them ... or anyone. Give them the reason to trust you but don't ever accept their disrespectful behaviors. Hold them up to certain standard so they know what level of quality to expect from you, yet at the same time be strong and fully in your own power so they know they never have the full control. Scorps like tantalizing situations the most, especially if it's done in a healthy way. That's why they get themselves in so much troubles, because the tantalizing types aren't always of highest characters

[12YearsABlob]

That's great, @theunknown . Especially, "Scorpios puff their chest, roar loudly first to scare you in hope that if you are not scared, you can become the ones they can trust. Scorpios are very trusting if they have a close bond with someone."

I believe they do want to merge in every sense, though.

:edit: not sure 'bout the rest.

P.S. Sorry, I had a long post here, just feel silly talking about it.

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12YearsABlob oh why did you delete it. It was so well written. I didnt say anything because ... well I had no responses to that lol

I noticed that scorpio venus for a scorpio sun or cap sun is significantly a better experience for me. I know 3 scorps with scorpio venuses and they don't have the lashing out problems that the sag and libra have. They just seem to be able to control their feelings and get a hold of it better.

These ppl are not touchy huggy at all but when they hug you, you really feel it, and they took so much time to prove their love to you and my relationship with them tends to grow with time. I absolutely love Scorp Sun/Venus combo. Actually I find that I dont get along with Scorp Sun/ libra or sag venus either. With scorp, there are these intense feelings and needs for control that when paired with a lighter venus, they get confused, or reallllly selfish - as in I'll protect my feelings, build some relationship with you so I can benefit from it but I wont give my heart to you.

[12YearsABlob]

Ha, thanks! No, I didn't take it down coz of that, just had second thoughts... Might put it back up later. I agree with what you said there. Scorpio Venus/Mars is the famous "Scorpio in love" that you read about. Scorpio suns can go either way, depends. Since we're talking about love, the condition of the Venus is important. I too prefer the Scorp venus/mars/inner planets. Scorp venus with other suns is lovely too. They never make me doubt them, lol.

Oct 28, 2018 16:27:09 GMT @theunknown said:

I absolutely love Scorp Sun/Venus combo. Actually I find that I dont get along with Scorp Sun/ libra or sag venus either. With scorp, there are these intense feelings and needs for control that when paired with a lighter venus, they get confused, or reallllly selfish - as in I'll protect my feelings, build some relationship with you so I can benefit from it but I wont give my heart to you.

Yeah, I know what you mean. It's hard to be with someone who isn't as giving as they are demanding.

'Course that's not everyone...

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I forgot to mention that when things fall apart between a scorp and another person, scorpios are the ones who try to not knock over everything (which is what a taurus does when angry). They are pretty good at seeing others' intentions, fortunes and misfortunes so they only address what's personal to them instead of going for the kill. Traditional astrology presents scorp as cold hearted and vengeful when angry but that's more capricorn. Caps will go in for the kill once they decide they are angry. Scorpios just kinda hit you at the spots that are personal to them, but they are compassionate enough to let you go easy, or else lots of people would have died by now.

Every single scorp I've met didn't go full 100% at their opponent. So if they do, well you must have done something severely wrong and you have challenged their ego at the same time. Scorps think they know deeper meanings of life, so they think they are above your low-life behaviors somehow and that's why they let you exist in mediocrity instead of tainting their name by going all in. That btw doesnt mean them going after you for what's personal to them is right either. Even the whole idea about perceiving others as their opponents isnt right ... I'm just saying as emotional and vengeful and very often unreasonable as they are, they hold off a lot of their bombs and bullets lol.