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Post by vg on Dec 12, 2020 17:16:58 GMT
Hello
Do you consider the 9th house a relationship house? I've heard the 7th being marriage/8th divorce/ 9th the 2nd marriage.
So my bf has been married previously a few years ago, separated then a 1.5 yrs later met me... Although not technically married in the legal sense of the word we do live like a married couple. So i guess this would make me his 2nd "wife" and he my first "husband".
My DSC is conjunct his 9th house cusp. So am wondering why this house isn't considered a relationship house(people always talk about the 5th, 7th etc.....) if it is indeed supposed to represent 2nd marriage.
Was just wondering
Pls dnt quote
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Post by Ava on Dec 13, 2020 3:17:41 GMT
I have no idea what the real answer is vg , but it's an interesting question. 9th house associated with Jupiter, so theoretically you take what you learn in the first marriage and hopefully can now happily expand with another person? I have 9H Jupiter natally, ruling my Venus. I got married young and am still married, kinda rare in my age group and location. Well my husband is older and we get asked if I am his second wife (no). Thing is, I liked his maturity and felt I could learn a lot from him. See what I mean, maybe having 9H Jupiter is like first and second marriage combined. 9H Cusp in Pisces, heck if I got married again (I wouldn't), Pisces would be a good choice. Aries in the 9th, that's over my head, never dated an Aries... Edit: Transiting Uranus was tightly conjunct my husband's 9H Cusp in Aqua when we got married, so that's interesting. Pls don't quote; well it's not worth quoting but still.
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Post by lumina on Dec 13, 2020 9:07:37 GMT
I read that too, about the 9th House. IT also was considered the House of legal marriage in older Astrology. But i read that in more modern books too. So possibly there is Something to IT.
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Post by vg on Dec 13, 2020 10:02:11 GMT
Thanks Ava, i have uranus conjunct jupiter natally in my 2nd. I do think as jupiter is also supposed to represent the husband(my SO has moon in sag conj uranus natally), so makes sense to me that the 9th would be a relationship house. Funny that when we met tr uranus had not long gone over my DSC. So tr uranus in his 9th as well. It was hitting his juno as well. We are from different countries/religious backgrounds, so yes there is alot of learning on those areas in our home. I don't think we would ever go the legal route of getting married, his jupiter is exactly conjunct my neptune(the "illusion" of him being my "husband"). His jupiter opposes my 9th house moon so i guess in many ways our relationship is very 9th housey. astrogirl - No my SO is not older than me but I would say yes he is more mature than me generally lol, though his sense of humour is rather jolly. I was in my 30's when we met. Natally I have saturn in my first house opposite juno in my 7th. Plus my dsc ruler and venus are in my 10th house. He has strong saturn placements/influence in his own chart. No quoting please
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Post by Ava on Dec 15, 2020 23:03:40 GMT
vgI hope all the Jupiter and 9th house involvement translates into ongoing happiness for you two. This morning I greeted a Sag coworker and asked how she was doing. She said "Terrible" in this exhausted tone, and seemed to drag herself along. This was after I'd had the standard morning exchange with many other people...you ask "How are you?" and the answer is "Fine, thanks" or something. No, not for the Sag!!! They are BLUNT. A spade is a spade. <3 So that got me thinking later. If you can say whatever you want, and be accepted for who you really are, then maybe you would hav a larger sense of yourself, because more of you is SEEN and regarded by the other person. (Larger -> Jupiter buzzword) Me with my Sag Venus, I think this is ideal. And then, the older we get, the more we've been around ourselves, so we can communicate who we are more accurately, just another factor setting the stage for a sense of expansion, when we feel truly understood by someone else. You know? Just some thoughts. lumina what do you think, as a Sag stellium person?
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Post by lumina on Dec 16, 2020 10:59:27 GMT
Ava Yes, makes perfect sense. Well I am a bit surprised to read this, cause isn`t everyone thinking like that? LOL No seriously, maybe it is being a Sag stellium person, but to me this thinking feels so much an integral part of my mindset that I never even questioned it. And I had to grin a little about your Sag-co-worker. Yeah, that is me usually too. Of course I learned that some people rather want to hear a "Fine" - though most of the times I am telling them to not ask me, if they do not want to really know. (somehow I can put it into nicer words though in personal contact). Actually I remember 2 or 3 chats with P, when he asked me about something, and before answering I was asking back: "The polished diplomatic or the simple and honest version?" He was opting for option B everytime, and he got option B. LOL (which I still managed to wrap up as nicely as possible, not to wear velvet gloves around him, but actually the reason for me being diplomatic at times or putting it nicely has more to do with me being aware that my view is just ONE perspective on the subject, and others might have different ones, and I might only see a part of the true, or just my warped perspective of it, so I never think of my opinion in absolute terms.)
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Post by Ava on Dec 16, 2020 16:06:46 GMT
Thanks lumina. Reminds me of the last time I got together with several of my high school friends, the Sag was such an open book. I wasn't connecting it with his sign. ... my view is just ONE perspective on the subject, and others might have different ones That's also an expansion thing, if your opinion is also encompassing the validity of others' opinions. Sag multiculturalism. Which brings to mind the issue of maturity and how it seems to handle jealousy better, I mean by the time it's a person's second marriage they are hopefully not as needy as in their younger years but more centered in themselves, financially stable, able to stand alone. And without that neediness maybe there's more appreciation for others' equal standing. I don't know, when I got married, I wanted to be The One but I think if I got married again I'd want to know what my partner actually lived through up to that point, honestly, and not feel the need to outshine the women in his past or control the narrative. Hopefully I'd just appreciate his company and rest easy in the reality of what he'd been through. I would appreciate that from him, likewise. But I have Neptune ruling the 9th from the 5th, so maybe that shows. Pls don't quote
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Post by lumina on Dec 16, 2020 21:00:52 GMT
Ava This is the ideal for me, too! (though to get to that point, it takes a lot of inner confidence and security. I sometimes feel I can do that, and at other times my Venus square Pluto rears its head. )
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