Post by lumina on Apr 5, 2020 17:46:46 GMT
As mentioned in FruityLlama thread on Mercury-squares, I once more started thinking about inconjuncts. LIterally translated it means "dis-connect" (it does not mean un-connected, but really dis-connected, and I think that is an important distinction).
I know that some people love their inconjuncts and that is okay, but my take on these are like this (I am not talking about Yods, Yods are possibly different from the one legged inconjuncts).
INconjuncts connect people by aspect that have neither modality nor element in common AND while this is true for the sextile as well, unlike in a sextile the elements are not compatible with each other.
They are also on the other side of the earth so to speak (or the zodiac). The planets in inconjuncts notice each other (potentially), but they don`t really see each other.
The planets connect, without really being (internally) connected. That is where the adjustment factor comes in, basically they don`t get each other at all. Even in a square or opposition, planets get each other better, they heartily disagree with certain things about each other, but they have some sort of understanding or clarity about each other. this is not the case in the inconjuncts, it is like totally foreign worlds. Which makes for a disconnect and basically irritation/ annoyance with each other on the ground of simply not having any common ground.
Of course one can weather anything if the will is there (and some other good connective aspects are there), but personally I consider the quinkunx of one of the toughest aspects to weather in a synastry, esp. if exact. The reactions to a stimulus are just so different. Also I think it is very tough because on first glance it does not seem like it is a big deal or toughie. It is a failure to see eye to eye on some issues, not able to come to a real understanding of the other energy, which leads to irritation, but most of the time not outright tension that seeks a quick resolution, even if in an explosive situation, but that would clear the air at least!
The quinkunx, well the mean side of it is that while you sort of glide over it, saying: it`s not a big deal, just a minor annoyance, because the other has these silly tendencies, it eats away from beneath the surface. Like minor annoyances becomes such a steady stream of drops, that it becomes really uncomfortable over time (esp. between personal plants).
Also it seems like there is a lot of fluctuation and lack of good timing. Like one is in the mood for talking, when the other needs their space, something like that. Not a big deal... but laying the foundation about insecurities as well.
WEll people can deal with that I guess. I mean probably every synastry has some inconjuncts (though honestly? I wouldn`t want them between personal planets, or not without other planets bringing some ease), but there is adjustment needed and what I think maybe even more so is acceptance. To accept that there are areas where your partner will always feel like a stranger in a certain way, and focus on the areas where you really connect.
Just my observation and thoughts about inconjuncts in synastry.
Well I remember that Blashke said that if there are too many of these, they can actually make people sick if they are having to live together.
And I read in a book on progressions and solar arcs that quinkunx often/ nearly always show up in separations (also read years before that they are often showing up in death charts.)
I read in Karen Hamaker-Zondags book about them, and she relates them - among other things- to feelings of insecurity. I have a Moon-Saturn-quinkunx natally, and yes that is absolutely true. You are always wondering if you did enough, if you are enough, if you could have done something more, and just this insecurity, but it is never as sharp as in a square. You can ignore it .... for a while, but it is like an undercurrent, and if you are not careful, it might make you sick.
Anyway anything can be handled, I am optimistic like that, but the inconjunct (in synastry) might be among the really difficult to handle aspects - over time. Insidious little thorn in the side, like a forgotten needle in your shirt, that you cannot get out and that keeps on pinching you with certain moves.
Well I was also stumbling across some links on inconjuncts.
www.astromarkt.net/astrology_to_study-html/synastry-inconjunct-html/
"No aspect is more frustrating than the inconjunct (or quincunx). This tense 150-degree angle links two signs that have absolutely nothing in common. Each sign is in a different element (fire, earth, water, air), a different modality (cardinal, fixed, mutable), and a different polarity (positive and negative). And yet, when two planets (five signs apart) fall within orb of the inconjunct, they connect even though they have zero understanding of each other. The result is a struggle between unrelated energies that have no way of finding a middle ground. This is difficult enough to handle by transit or in the natal chart, but imagine if you have to deal with this aspect in synastry.
Here are the signs that inconjunct each other:
Aries inconjuncts Virgo and Scorpio
Taurus inconjuncts Libra and Sagittarius
Gemini inconjuncts Scorpio and Capricorn
Cancer inconjuncts Sagittarius and Aquarius
Leo inconjuncts Capricorn and Pisces
Virgo inconjuncts Aries and Aquarius
Libra inconjuncts Taurus and Pisces
Scorpio inconjuncts Aries and Gemini
Sagittarius inconjuncts Taurus and Cancer
Capricorn inconjuncts Gemini and Leo
Aquarius inconjuncts Cancer and Virgo
Pisces inconjuncts Leo and Libra
I use very tight orbs for inconjuncts: no more than two degrees. This aspect can be formed with planets, angles, Nodes or asteroids.
An inconjunct between two people is an area of misunderstanding. Unlike the opposition, you can’t find the common ground between your objectives, because there is no common ground. Unlike the square, you can’t harness the tension, because the tension of the inconjunct is a slippery, moving target; you have one way of dealing with it and your partner’s way undermines or blocks you. How much the inconjunct impacts a couple depends on how prominent the natal planets or points are in each chart. The effects can range from mild irritation to a major stumbling block.
The key to handling a synastric inconjunct is to accept the following:
Adjustment is required from both partners.
There will never be a neat solution.
The promise of a solution is what keeps you coming back for more.
A Synastric Inconjunct in Action
Ms. Venus has Libra Rising. Her chart ruler (Venus) is in her 2nd House of security, in Scorpio. Venus is a major player in her chart, because it describes her identity and how she loves. Venus’ 2nd House Scorpio placement means that her way of giving/receiving love is possessive, and focused on intensive investigation of her partner. Her self-esteem is rooted in how deeply her partner accepts their merging. Her partner (Ms. Mars) has natal Mars in 7th House Gemini. She’s drawn to partners who initiate (Mars) different ways of relating (Gemini). Nothing too heavy or focused. At the same time, her sexual energy is quick, curious and constantly shifting.
Mars inconjuncts Venus in their synastry. The tension creates a strong attraction. Mars is curious, because Venus is a new challenge. Venus is drawn by the promise of Mars’ intriguing puzzle (here’s someone to investigate and penetrate). However, it quickly becomes apparent that this is a thorny connection. Venus’ desire to know Mars on a profound level clashes with Mars’ breezy energy. Venus finds Mars insensitive, and Mars finds Venus suffocating. When Mars initiates sex, Venus is not in the mood. When Venus is in the mood, Mars is distracted. Mars undermines Venus’ self-esteem, while Venus is out of step with Mars’ partnership energy.
Venus/Mars inconjuncts in romantic relationships can be tough, but not impossible. The inconjunct’s oddball energy promises a very special result, and it’s that promise that continues to magnetize Ms. Venus and Ms. Mars. Venus can develop her inner resources, so she doesn’t lean so heavily on Mars. Mars can slow down in the moment and focus more on Venus. Each person can moderate the energies of their planet/sign combination, while accepting that Venus in Scorpio will always be intense, and Mars in Gemini will not. No aspect teaches more about the natal planet/sign combinations involved; the struggle to arrive at the “solution” pushes each planet to its limits.
At the same time, it’s important to avoid making the entire relationship about this one aspect. If Ms. Venus has planets in air signs, she can use their energy to connect with her partner on a sexual level (rather than obsessing about how her desires never seem to be satisfied). If Ms. Mars has planets in water signs, that’s a way for Mars to relate to her partner on a more intimate level.
›› Get your customized astrological compatibility report for insight into how the planets play out in your relationships.
Yods
I’m not going to write too much about synastric Yods here, because this subject really deserves its own article. Some of you may be wondering about this “fated” aspect, when two planets sextile each other and each planet forms an inconjunct to one other planet (the focal planet). If you look at the list of signs that inconjunct each other, you’ll see that each combination of three forms a Yod (Cancer inconjuncts Sag and Aquarius, which sextile each other). Any combination of planets/points in the above three signs in synastry can form a Yod between two people (as long as they’re in orb). If your Venus and Mars sextile each other, and they both inconjunct your partner’s Saturn, that’s a Yod. If your Sun and Moon inconjunct each other, and your partner’s Pluto sextiles your Moon while inconjuncting your Sun, that’s a Yod.
Yods place a tremendous amount of pressure on the focal planet. This becomes a specific task that one or the other partner (depending on whose natal planet it is) must deal with. There is much talk about a Yod’s fated energy: Two people are pulled together for a divine reason. While the focal point will certainly be an essential part of why they came together, we can easily say that any relationship is fated, Yod or no Yod. There’s a reason for all partnerships, and a synastric Yod is simply another way of defining it.
Challenging aspects in synastry can create an obsession with fixes. While a proactive approach is great, the inconjunct is a point of friction that doesn’t have a tidy solution. Hammering away at this aspect until both partners arrive at complete unity is a guaranteed way to make it worse. Adjust your respective behaviors, agree to disagree, and then consider if the imperfect solution is more satisfying because it’s unlike anything else you’ve experienced."
sasstrology.com/2014/07/inconjuncts-in-synastry-agree-to-disagree.html
I know that some people love their inconjuncts and that is okay, but my take on these are like this (I am not talking about Yods, Yods are possibly different from the one legged inconjuncts).
INconjuncts connect people by aspect that have neither modality nor element in common AND while this is true for the sextile as well, unlike in a sextile the elements are not compatible with each other.
They are also on the other side of the earth so to speak (or the zodiac). The planets in inconjuncts notice each other (potentially), but they don`t really see each other.
The planets connect, without really being (internally) connected. That is where the adjustment factor comes in, basically they don`t get each other at all. Even in a square or opposition, planets get each other better, they heartily disagree with certain things about each other, but they have some sort of understanding or clarity about each other. this is not the case in the inconjuncts, it is like totally foreign worlds. Which makes for a disconnect and basically irritation/ annoyance with each other on the ground of simply not having any common ground.
Of course one can weather anything if the will is there (and some other good connective aspects are there), but personally I consider the quinkunx of one of the toughest aspects to weather in a synastry, esp. if exact. The reactions to a stimulus are just so different. Also I think it is very tough because on first glance it does not seem like it is a big deal or toughie. It is a failure to see eye to eye on some issues, not able to come to a real understanding of the other energy, which leads to irritation, but most of the time not outright tension that seeks a quick resolution, even if in an explosive situation, but that would clear the air at least!
The quinkunx, well the mean side of it is that while you sort of glide over it, saying: it`s not a big deal, just a minor annoyance, because the other has these silly tendencies, it eats away from beneath the surface. Like minor annoyances becomes such a steady stream of drops, that it becomes really uncomfortable over time (esp. between personal plants).
Also it seems like there is a lot of fluctuation and lack of good timing. Like one is in the mood for talking, when the other needs their space, something like that. Not a big deal... but laying the foundation about insecurities as well.
WEll people can deal with that I guess. I mean probably every synastry has some inconjuncts (though honestly? I wouldn`t want them between personal planets, or not without other planets bringing some ease), but there is adjustment needed and what I think maybe even more so is acceptance. To accept that there are areas where your partner will always feel like a stranger in a certain way, and focus on the areas where you really connect.
Just my observation and thoughts about inconjuncts in synastry.
Well I remember that Blashke said that if there are too many of these, they can actually make people sick if they are having to live together.
And I read in a book on progressions and solar arcs that quinkunx often/ nearly always show up in separations (also read years before that they are often showing up in death charts.)
I read in Karen Hamaker-Zondags book about them, and she relates them - among other things- to feelings of insecurity. I have a Moon-Saturn-quinkunx natally, and yes that is absolutely true. You are always wondering if you did enough, if you are enough, if you could have done something more, and just this insecurity, but it is never as sharp as in a square. You can ignore it .... for a while, but it is like an undercurrent, and if you are not careful, it might make you sick.
Anyway anything can be handled, I am optimistic like that, but the inconjunct (in synastry) might be among the really difficult to handle aspects - over time. Insidious little thorn in the side, like a forgotten needle in your shirt, that you cannot get out and that keeps on pinching you with certain moves.
Well I was also stumbling across some links on inconjuncts.
www.astromarkt.net/astrology_to_study-html/synastry-inconjunct-html/
"No aspect is more frustrating than the inconjunct (or quincunx). This tense 150-degree angle links two signs that have absolutely nothing in common. Each sign is in a different element (fire, earth, water, air), a different modality (cardinal, fixed, mutable), and a different polarity (positive and negative). And yet, when two planets (five signs apart) fall within orb of the inconjunct, they connect even though they have zero understanding of each other. The result is a struggle between unrelated energies that have no way of finding a middle ground. This is difficult enough to handle by transit or in the natal chart, but imagine if you have to deal with this aspect in synastry.
Here are the signs that inconjunct each other:
Aries inconjuncts Virgo and Scorpio
Taurus inconjuncts Libra and Sagittarius
Gemini inconjuncts Scorpio and Capricorn
Cancer inconjuncts Sagittarius and Aquarius
Leo inconjuncts Capricorn and Pisces
Virgo inconjuncts Aries and Aquarius
Libra inconjuncts Taurus and Pisces
Scorpio inconjuncts Aries and Gemini
Sagittarius inconjuncts Taurus and Cancer
Capricorn inconjuncts Gemini and Leo
Aquarius inconjuncts Cancer and Virgo
Pisces inconjuncts Leo and Libra
I use very tight orbs for inconjuncts: no more than two degrees. This aspect can be formed with planets, angles, Nodes or asteroids.
An inconjunct between two people is an area of misunderstanding. Unlike the opposition, you can’t find the common ground between your objectives, because there is no common ground. Unlike the square, you can’t harness the tension, because the tension of the inconjunct is a slippery, moving target; you have one way of dealing with it and your partner’s way undermines or blocks you. How much the inconjunct impacts a couple depends on how prominent the natal planets or points are in each chart. The effects can range from mild irritation to a major stumbling block.
The key to handling a synastric inconjunct is to accept the following:
Adjustment is required from both partners.
There will never be a neat solution.
The promise of a solution is what keeps you coming back for more.
A Synastric Inconjunct in Action
Ms. Venus has Libra Rising. Her chart ruler (Venus) is in her 2nd House of security, in Scorpio. Venus is a major player in her chart, because it describes her identity and how she loves. Venus’ 2nd House Scorpio placement means that her way of giving/receiving love is possessive, and focused on intensive investigation of her partner. Her self-esteem is rooted in how deeply her partner accepts their merging. Her partner (Ms. Mars) has natal Mars in 7th House Gemini. She’s drawn to partners who initiate (Mars) different ways of relating (Gemini). Nothing too heavy or focused. At the same time, her sexual energy is quick, curious and constantly shifting.
Mars inconjuncts Venus in their synastry. The tension creates a strong attraction. Mars is curious, because Venus is a new challenge. Venus is drawn by the promise of Mars’ intriguing puzzle (here’s someone to investigate and penetrate). However, it quickly becomes apparent that this is a thorny connection. Venus’ desire to know Mars on a profound level clashes with Mars’ breezy energy. Venus finds Mars insensitive, and Mars finds Venus suffocating. When Mars initiates sex, Venus is not in the mood. When Venus is in the mood, Mars is distracted. Mars undermines Venus’ self-esteem, while Venus is out of step with Mars’ partnership energy.
Venus/Mars inconjuncts in romantic relationships can be tough, but not impossible. The inconjunct’s oddball energy promises a very special result, and it’s that promise that continues to magnetize Ms. Venus and Ms. Mars. Venus can develop her inner resources, so she doesn’t lean so heavily on Mars. Mars can slow down in the moment and focus more on Venus. Each person can moderate the energies of their planet/sign combination, while accepting that Venus in Scorpio will always be intense, and Mars in Gemini will not. No aspect teaches more about the natal planet/sign combinations involved; the struggle to arrive at the “solution” pushes each planet to its limits.
At the same time, it’s important to avoid making the entire relationship about this one aspect. If Ms. Venus has planets in air signs, she can use their energy to connect with her partner on a sexual level (rather than obsessing about how her desires never seem to be satisfied). If Ms. Mars has planets in water signs, that’s a way for Mars to relate to her partner on a more intimate level.
›› Get your customized astrological compatibility report for insight into how the planets play out in your relationships.
Yods
I’m not going to write too much about synastric Yods here, because this subject really deserves its own article. Some of you may be wondering about this “fated” aspect, when two planets sextile each other and each planet forms an inconjunct to one other planet (the focal planet). If you look at the list of signs that inconjunct each other, you’ll see that each combination of three forms a Yod (Cancer inconjuncts Sag and Aquarius, which sextile each other). Any combination of planets/points in the above three signs in synastry can form a Yod between two people (as long as they’re in orb). If your Venus and Mars sextile each other, and they both inconjunct your partner’s Saturn, that’s a Yod. If your Sun and Moon inconjunct each other, and your partner’s Pluto sextiles your Moon while inconjuncting your Sun, that’s a Yod.
Yods place a tremendous amount of pressure on the focal planet. This becomes a specific task that one or the other partner (depending on whose natal planet it is) must deal with. There is much talk about a Yod’s fated energy: Two people are pulled together for a divine reason. While the focal point will certainly be an essential part of why they came together, we can easily say that any relationship is fated, Yod or no Yod. There’s a reason for all partnerships, and a synastric Yod is simply another way of defining it.
Challenging aspects in synastry can create an obsession with fixes. While a proactive approach is great, the inconjunct is a point of friction that doesn’t have a tidy solution. Hammering away at this aspect until both partners arrive at complete unity is a guaranteed way to make it worse. Adjust your respective behaviors, agree to disagree, and then consider if the imperfect solution is more satisfying because it’s unlike anything else you’ve experienced."
sasstrology.com/2014/07/inconjuncts-in-synastry-agree-to-disagree.html