Third House Overlays in Synastry

[Ava]

Sun in a partner’s third house:

When your Sun is in your romantic partner’s third house, you stimulate your partners desire to communicate & share ideas. You may love how your partner communicates as communication may flow smoothly between the two of you. You may not mind if your partner dominates conversation. Your relationship stimulates your partner’s mental abilities and is also favorable for writing, speaking, making new connections & taking short trips together.

When your relationship partner’s Sun is in your third house, he or she stimulates your desire to communicate. This may lend to new ideas and learning as well. You may want to learn new things. You may dominate conversation which your partner does not mind as communication flows smoothly for the both of you. You may enjoy writing, speaking, meeting new people and taking short trips together. He or she stimulates your mind as well.

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Moon in a partner’s third house:

When your Moon is in your romantic partner’s third house, you make your partner feel comfortable in expressing his or her ideas and emotions openly. You may even feel a telepathic nature between the two of you at times. You may have a knack for comforting your partner through your words. You could even illuminate ideas within your partner. When you speak to your partner you may spark feelings of emotions in them. There is something in the way you communicate that makes them more receptive in sharing their emotions with you. Your may get along well with your partners neighbors and siblings as well.

When your relationship partner’s Moon is in your third house you feel more emotionally open with your partner. They somehow make you feel safe and comforted through their words. This comfort makes you feel safe enough to share you emotions openly. You may like what your partner has to say and how they say it. You may feel with this partner in your life he or she may illuminate your insight about things. Both of you may have a telepathic sense about one another. Both may feel a great comfort in the communication of ideas, feelings & emotions.

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Mercury in a partner's third house:

When your Mercury is in your romantic partner's third house, he or she loves to explore ideas with you. You bring out the best in his or her cognitive abilities and a desire to seek knowledge, take classes, discuss and disseminate his or her knowledge. When your relationship partner’s Mercury is in your third house, you feel more alive mentally when you are in your partner’s company. he or she encourages you to communicate freely and your conversations play a major role in your relationship.

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Venus in a partner's third house:

When your Venus is in your romantic partner’s third house, your conversations with your partner are generally amicable and enjoyable. You attract beautiful and loving thoughts and words from him or her in return. Talk of love, romance, partnership, and the appreciation of beauty give you both great enjoyment. When your relationship partner’s Venus is in your third house you will argue with each other much less than you normally do. You are intellectually attracted to your partner and appreciate sharing your thoughts with him or her.

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Mars in a partner’s third house:

When your Mars is in your romantic partner’s third house, you have mentally stimulating interactions, but your domestic relationship may begin to resemble a long running debate with lots of points scored on both sides, but few settled victories. You both just can’t seem to pass up a challenge and have to verbalize opinions. When your relationship partner’s Mars is in your third house, you enjoy a bit of verbal sparing and have a great deal that you can learn from each other, once you get beyond his or her impatience to get to the central issue and get done with it.

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More readings available at the site. 

Just wondering about others' experiences?

Especially in the digital age, I'd consider these overlays pretty important. Sometimes there's nothing to do but talk. 

[lumina]

Ava

A very unervalued (and sometimes underestimated?) house in overlays, or maybe even the whole axis. 
It`s not seen as "sexy" I guess, though personally I think any house can be sexy, especially if your relationship-rulers are falling in a certain house. For example for me the 1st house is a pretty sexy house (my DESC-ruler in my 1st house conjunct Sun; ruler of my 5th house also in 1st house, albeit in a different sign). 

For my best friend actually the 3rd house is a relationship house, as her DESC-ruler is Saturn in 3rd house. And her Moon conjuncts her husband`s Jupiter exact on the cusp of HIS 3rd house (and their eldest Son`s sun falls right there, too). It`s what initiated their connection to each other (talking, communicating) and it is what keeps them going strong, to always keep in communication with each other, even if sometimes things will be a bit bumpy. 


But anyway I did notice in P`s and my case a major emphasis on 9th house overlays; I still haven`t really made a rhyme of this one though. why this should be so over-present for us. lol 

his NN, Mars-Jupiter, Saturn-DESC in my 9th house
my Neptune-NN (conjunct his 9th house cusp even, but already in 9th house), my Sun-Mercury also in his 9th house, albeit at the end of it, conjunct his MC (2-3 degree-orb). 

And my Mars-ASC is almost in 9th house as well, but still in his 8th house (my Mars 5 Sag, my ASC 7 Sag, his 9th house cusp 9 Sag, with his Mercury exactly conjunct. Well technically his Mercury would be in his 8th house, but like with my Uranus right before my 11th house cusp, this one also feels like a 9th house Mercury, not an 8th house one)

my Uranus 1°21 Scorpio
my 11th house cusp 1°35 Scorpio
- yes my Uranus is definitely a strong 11th house Uranus, not a 10th house one. 

his Mercury 9°23 Sag
his 9th cusp 9°50 Sag


Anyway I disgress, I just find it peculiar this 9th house emphasis, which is of course on one axis with 3rd house (his ASC falls into my 3rd house as well) , not a good interpretation for that or explanation, but it is too obvious to not be noted. 

Well of course our composite has NN in 9th house, with Mars conjunct by 3 degrees also in 9th house, but Pluto conjunct it by 5 degrees is still in the 8th house.

and well our composite Chiron on 29 Aries (and possibly composite Atropos on 00 Taurus as well) in 3rd house of the composite - yeah I guess this one could fill books. lol 
I guess I should consider ourselves lucky, that this Chiron is actually having a trine (3 degrees) to the 11t house Sun. 
And Sun has also a trine to Saturn with an orb of about 5 degrees, actually even though this is a wiiiiiiiiiiide Grand trine, it makes Sun fall onto the Saturn/Chiron-mp, and curiously enough our Draconic composite Venus is sitting right on the far midpoint of this one, so maybe not that lucky after all. LOL 

Also Chiron has a square to ASC and a sesisquare to Neptune, though no clue what to think of this one, if that is even important. 

But 3rd house Chiron, oh yes, definitely resonates. lol But I guess Chiron has to be somewhere. 

[lumina]

Well Eros-Priapus are also in our composite 3rd house, though already conjunct IC (with 1-2 degrees), and opposing Uranus and trining Venus.

our Draco composite Uranus-MC falls into the composite 3rd house, while the DRaco composite Eros-Priapus-IC falsl into the composite 9th house (Draco Uranus conjunct the SN, Eros-Priapus-IC is actually closer to the composite Mars, Eros even being on the same degree as composite Mars - and conjunct P`s Draconic ASC and my Draconic Venus and his Draconic Saturn-DESC are both on the same degree as DRaco composite MC, and falling into the composite 9th house - yeah well 9th house, whatever that means. lol it is loaded in our case.

[lumina]

Hi Ava


"Maybe because you're Sags?
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Maybe it adds to it. Well P`s DESC-ruler, 3rd house and IC-ruler is on the cusp of his 9th house, so it seems it is an important house for him. 
Funny, actually our 3rd house rulers are exactly conjunct in his 9th house. But of course for him it is Mercury, for me Neptune, so there is always a bit of vagueness there. 





"So you two don't have 3rd house overlays?.....*looking*
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Not that much. As I said, it is more 9th house for us. 

Well I found this interpretation here: 

"THE 9th house Synastry- Higher Love



In synastry, the 9th house is not known as the house of true love. However, it's been said that many second Marriages take place here. What would the 9th house have to do with love or marriage?

Well, I guess, if we are supposed to get it better the second time you know, because of the lessons learned, then the 9th house would actually make sense.

The ninth house in astrology is known as the house of higher learning, long distance travel, organized religion, philosophy, expansion and adventure. Sound like it's possible to fall in love in that house after all.

Who doesn't want a partner that you have all of this is common with? As we evolve or grow later in life we often find the things that were once important to us while younger change. We find the things we use to tolerate while younger become unbearable or unacceptable and the things that were important at one time suddenly lose their importance.

The one thing that we look for regardless of age is compatibility but as we grow in maturity ultimately on the same page and the least amount of differences as possible. We have already been there done that and prefer compatibility.

We prefer a place that we can grow from without the many struggles of having so many differences, in the very important areas of life, things like philosophy, beliefs or ideas.

In astrology, the 7th house represents is considered the house of Marriage, it's really the house of our opposite. These are important relationships because we learn, evolve and change as a result of them. They have many of the things that we lack, and us them. It only makes sense we would be attracted to them would be better in business or as a person with them. We balance each other out in the positive, but in the negative we burn each other out.



The 7th house partners we often attract early on. The 5th is the house of play, and although it's fun in this house it's hard to keep up with and the 8th well,,, it's intense in there and after a while you just say, I'm tired too heavy and exhausting.



When you are looking for a lifelong partner who not only gets you but enlivens you to an elevated love that is built on admiration, respect, sharing the same ideas and ideals, you feel very at home with this person, you feel hopeful and that anything is possible.

This can also be our guru, spiritual guide or simply people that we relate to on a fundamental level, and over the long run.



Although the 9th house seems like a brainy house, it's far from it this is the house of adventure, expansion, travel, higher learning, exploration and seeking truths, that's a fulfilling experience!



In synastry, people who transpose planets here inspire us and encourage us, you feel good with them and the relationship never feels stagnant but is constantly growing and expanding. This person can easily be our life long partner. Of course, you need to have some other supportive placements and aspects preferably passionate and attraction ones. See: Attraction and Chemistry.



Expansion and optimism are "keywords" for this house. It's often seen activated in couples that travel together, and or are active, whether recreational, play or sport.



This house is a house of mutual goals, mutual beliefs, mutual desires or zest for a new experience.



Being the house of Jupiter, you really can't go wrong, he's the God of Abundance after all, you will both hold each other with the highest regard and have lot's of fun together.
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illumeastrology.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-9th-house-synastry-higher-love.html


and this one here








"Your Karma falls in his 3rd, so he senses what you're about, might be sensitive to how your past choices are affecting you and your future?
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Maybe, my SN is in his 3rd house as well, However Karma is not just past-oriented, I suppose it has more to do with what we have got to do in this life, of course based on past experiences (after all karma just means to take action, to do something). Interestingly his Karma falls at the end of my 9th house. lol conjunct my MC already. 

in the composite it falls into the middle, and that is on 9°39 Leo in 7th house; actually our applying progressed fullmoon will be closish to that. 
the pr fullmoon will have Moon on 8°49 Leo opposing Sun on 8°49 Aquarius, so it will be conjunct n composite Karma just under one degree, overlaying the composite 7th house of course and the progressed composite 5th house, though pr compospite Mars on 10°46 Scorpio might be a bit volatile?)


"His ASC falls in your 3rd, so his overall presentation lights up your communication switchboard? How he behaves makes rational sense to you?
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Hmm, sometimes yes, currently no. LOL 
For example I`ll never really understand that switch on/Off of his online communication with me. As he is non-communicative at the moment I really have no clue what`s going on with him. So no, actually sometimes his external presentation does not make much rational sense to me, as it seems completely irrational to me. sometimes. Maybe it makes sense to me in an irrational way though. lol 

Well actually my Draconic Mars, Neptune, ASC (with the asteroids of Lust, Wisdom, Angel, POlyhymina and I am sure a myriad more. lol) are in my 3rd house tropically. So that is important. and my chartruler and dispositor of all those Sag-planets tropically falls into my 3rd house as well. So yeah, 3rd house is important to me. 

Interestingly HIS chartrruler (tropically) falls into his 9th house - so another resonance with that axis. He might prefer the 9th house actually (possibly more about the major themes) while my 3rd house would be content enough with sharing casual stuff. lol I mean the 3rd house is the house of communication, but in an everyday kind of sense, unless you have Pluto there, or Neptune I suppose. lol Or Scorpio or Pisces, but on principle the 3rd house is just about connecting through communicating, doing it on a more "sharing information"-level, the 9th house strives to bring it into synthesis somehow, building a life philosophy from all these single tidbits of information. I still think the 3rd house is important to maintain this mental contact. you need to refine and use the telephone lines that have been installed, even if it is just to say: How are you? 
It`s not always about the big plan, the philosophy that will suddenly bring sense and meaning into your life and illuminate the truth of your beliefs, and everything is making sense in terms of htat philosophy. 

Anyway 3rd house overlays, P`s best friend puts a lot of planets into my 3rd house: 

Mercury (trine my Uranus, main ruler of the 3rd house, on my 11th house exact)
Sun and Venus (squaring my Sun-Mercury, but also conjunct my Draconic Mars-Neptune-ASC)
Mars (conjunct my IC, but from 3rd house, and quinkunx Uranus exact, trine Mars and square Venus)


Lancelot ALSO puts some planets into my 3rd house

Venus-SN-Ceres (conjunct my Juno and trine my Saturn in 8th house, Venus also conjunct my Jupiter, actually it is on the midpoint of my Jupiter-Juno)

Mercury-Vesta (square my Sun-Mercury, but also conjunct my Draconic Mars-Neptune-ASC, see above. lol) 

Mars(conjunct my IC but from 3rd house, quinkunx Uranus, trine Mars and square Venus - his and P`s friend`s Mars are conjunct)

Actually both of these Marses are conjunct my Deijanira. LOL 



 ""When your relationship partner’s Mars is in your third house, you enjoy a bit of verbal sparing..."
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Yes. Well P`s friend`s Aries-Mars in my 3rd house has definitely sparked up like that. I think it is the only time I ever have been verbally sparring/ debating/ discussing with anybody about how male sperm makes mandrakes grow, which is why it is often found underneath gallows (that was actually his participation. lol) and me pondering if that mean that if there is mandrake growing, that there were no women being hanged at that place or what that means in terms of gender-equality) 

For justification we both had a bit of a bad day and needed to leave off some of that steam, and it took on a very bizarre communication topic form. lol 



As for Lancelot, well, I haven`t noticed yet such a bizarre thing happening, so he tends to always overhear some of my more ironical remarks about situations, though often enough he seems to have difficulties to keep a straight face. I am usually more polite or diplomatic than that, but I also have my observations and I tend to sometimes utter them, usually mumbling them under my breath, but he has the knack to show up just when I am leaving off such an unqualified comment. lol 

Maybe if we knew each other better we would argue a lot. 



"ome of our communication is really good but I don't share emotions openly..."open" is relative...and maybe my own standards are too high or too specific."
Well it is HIS Moon, not yours. 
And then a LIbra-Moon will make more for a harmonious balanced communication, probably not that much of a soul-striptease as an 8th house Pisces moon would expect. Emotions are not always deep profound emotions (though they can be of course). 
But possibly he will make you think about his feelings, what they are and so on, and maybe also not wanting to disbalance those scales too much. Sounds more diplomatic than raw emotionally honest to me, unless we bring Pluto into this of course.