astr2329"Thank you so much for explaining how aspects really work,"
You`re welcome.
"Do you have a synastry blog ? I would read that !!!"
That`s so nice of you to say, no I don`t have a blog, I just blurt out my musings here and there.
I did come across someone who has a stellium, so my Juno is sextile a bunch of their planets.( Wonder who feels the loyalty and commitment more. )
Personally I wouldn`t put too much emphasis on a Juno-sextile, even if it is exact. What I would check in this instance however is a) how is the stellium aspected in their own chart? and b) how does it interact with YOUR planets, even just in terms of signbackground. Let`s say the stellium is in Libra, even if you do not have planets in tight aspect to this stellium, but if your own planets are all in Scorpio and Cancer for example, esp. the personal planets, then it might be rather challenging to really "get" each other. "Challenging" though, not impossible.
But it would take a lot of taking deep breaths, taking a step back, think about the actions and motivations of the other person, awareness of being different and only then react and respond. This can get the more difficult however, the tighter you would have planets aspecting this stellium, esp. in a square for example. It seems the more exact the orbs are, the quicker we respond to anything the other person does. Also exact aspects will be hit simultaneoulsy by transits, so both people will be affected at the same time (the same can happen of course if there are important transits for each person going on, but by different transiting planets, like one person has Tr Pluto conjunct their Venus, the other person has Tr Uranus conjunct their Mars, which might stimulate very different needs at the current time, sorry if I am babbling, I tend to do that. I blame my Jupiter in Pisces in 3rd house, squaring Neptune in Sag on my ASC
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As for asteroids I would bring them into play only after I have a firm grasp of the basic (planetary) picture; I would always have an eye on them however if they are tightly conjunct a planet or angle in my own chart (tight meaning basically a 1 degree orb, maybe 2 degrees, anything above that might just be sprinkles on a cake, or salt on a cake, sometimes. lol). I do tend to place more importance on Juno, Ceres and also to a degree Vesta and Pallas, they seem to be "more in your face" most of the time than one of the myriads other asteroids (Eros seems to be sort of different too, but maybe that is just because I keep an eye on that one. lol)
Anyway, asteroid astrology is a field for even more extensive research, where we are even less solid in our grasp on how effective, tangible etc. the effects are, so I`d be careful with those, especially in using them for coming to an judgement of a synastry (which we probably shouldn´t do anyway, judge a synastry I mean, I mean, what is good or bad anyway? Depends a lot on the people involved, too).
I did not interact with them because I feared a Venus square Venus would get in the way.
First of all I think by getting scared of astrology and deciding to not interact with a person on the basis of this, we do cut ourselves off possibly very valuable experiences. Also squares are not always bad, sometimes they are needed for stimulating us into action. We do need both, the harmony of the trines and the challenges and friction of the squares. I mean, without friction no heat, right? A synastry made up of only trines or sextiles could just sent us off into sleep, and actually not even generate any interest in starting to interact with the other person. It`s just so nice, that there is no spark there, no recognition: Oh, I really WANT to do or be with that person.
However, once a start is made, and interest is generated, then obviously we also need those harmonious aspects to flow with each other in every day life. We cannot live the drama of a Hollywood love story on a daily level. (BTW Hollywood love stories are seldom reflective of trines, noone would watch that movie, due to the lack of tension or obstacles to overcome, but as humans we are not made to live in movies anyway, but without at least a bit of that spark, I doubt a relationship would ever get off the ground. Especially physical attraction would not happen, that goes beyond: I want to cuddle with that person in front of the TV, which can be nice, too of course).
oh I am preaching about things I have no real understanding of anyway, so don`t mind me, just my thoughts.
Anyway Venus square Venus, generally speaking, I wouldn´t think it is too much of a problem (well for me maybe it would, because the other`s Venus would be opposite or conjunct my Pluto.
Actually on second thought, maybe I should look for someone like that. lol)
Generally speaking it might mean that your tastes are different, but that can easily be tolerated (my best friend and me have Venus square Venus too. We`ve been friends for over 20 years, but well the times we attended the same social functions or leisure activities I can count on both hands; it doesn`t matter though. We just like - slightly - different things, and we go on differently about socializing, which also had proved to be good for us, as we learned from each other and could modify our own perceptions or behaviours, where they got disbalanced. Me too much isolating myself and being too much "I am being myself and do not see any reason to adapt even a little bit." (Venus in CAp and some other stuff in my chart) and she was for many years very adaptable to whatever anyone asked of her or what she thought was being wanted of her, what she should be, or pretend to be (Venus in Libra). Over the years she got more self-reliant (her Moon in Aries btw), and I got more, well not exactly flexible, but I will at least admit that sometimes you have to adapt just a tiny little bit, if you want to connect to other people. lol
So genrally I do not see Venus square Venus as a big problem, unless of course there are other things attached to this, like a Saturn on the one side and a Neptune on the other side. then it might take more effort to get to some understanding and letting each other be and not feeling rejected or invisible.
Also depends on how prominent Venus is in each chart, it`s certainly different if it is on an angle or conjunct Sun or Moon, or tightly aspecting an angular planet, than if it is just floating around somewhere, then you can easily navigate around those difference in taste or values or approach to relationships. If it is prominent, it will probably take more conscious effort to gain understanding and resolving the differences, on the other hand it might also stimulate more curiousity and intrigue about the other person, esp. in the beginning.
Also some signs seem to deal better with differences bewteen them and their partners, while other signs like more sameness and harmony (Taurus and Cancer and Libra comes to mind, just for example), to a degree that would send me running for the hills cause I would just die of boredom (Moon in Aqua and Stellium in Sag is not really made to feel too well with too much "same procedure every day"
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In brief, you should first analyze each natal chart, what dso the people need and want? And does the other person fit that, just from her natal make up? And THEN comes synastry, as the aspects will tell you where and how they connect their "energies", which is what then makes the potential attraction scenario. But if they are truely compatible will already been shown in their natals. Obviously there are crossing points. If two people have the Sun in the same element AND those Suns conjunct or trine each other, then obviously the same Sun element already said something about what their core energy is about, and that would already be signaling a certain compatibility or sameness without even taking aspects into account. However when the aspects are there as well, then this gets more prominent and energized, and the way they connect to each other will vibe with that underlying similiarity.
Otherwise, that person is great company and we both support each other."
THAT is what really counts.
Astrology is a great tool to understand a relationship or another person, but it should never be used to decide about a relationship is worth it. That you have to decide from the way you actually interact and how you and the other person treat each other. If you treat each other well, and feel supported, then it doe snot matter a little bit, if Pluto is squaring Sun, Moon, Venus and Mars and Saturn making oppositions and Uranus conjunctions to all of that. Then it obviously is exactly what you need.
I am a bit new to this and I really don't know what would make for a good collaboarator, or a partner.
I guess you will only figure that out by allowing the experience to happen, and just reflect on if it feels good to you or not, and then you will know what is good for you or not. Astrology cannot do that for you.