11th house: How do you wave good buy to a nasty friend?

[whisperix]

Inspired by a recent post I have noticed that there is a difference.

I have ChironRX and Moon in the 11th house. Moon rules my 2nd house.


I am more like.



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Lol. Love that gif! Well, let me see.

I have 11th in Sagittarius, with Jupiter in Sag in the 10th, conjunct Uranus.
I have Moon, Neptune and South Node in the 11th. Moon rules my 6th and 7th, Neptune rules my 2nd. I put quite a lot of energy in that house, even though it's what I should leave behind (SN). I have had countless "friends" disappoint me over the years. 

Friendship endings hurt me quite a bit. I feel they are as traumatic as break-ups. I have never ended a friendship upfront, I mostly drift away, not always meaning to, but the friendly break-up thing was done to me.

The thing is, after the pain wears off, I realize it's one of the best things that ever happened to me. That perhaps I was fed up with those people too but hanged on when I shouldn't have. It ends up being a blessing in disguise. They usually return years later to mend things, but once I am done, I am done. There's no looking back, in either love or friendship.

[FruityLlama]

I have moon in 11th house too, its my chart ruler and im exactly the same as you both! its very hard to break from friendships or realise that certain people do not have your back at all. used to hurt me a lot before but i think as we are all maturing its getting a bit better

[anela]

It's traumatic for me, too. I think that's why I still have a few "problem" people on my friend's list at facebook, and I often don't end friendships. Pluto is in my 11th.

Some have just fizzled, others have imploded. One, because she ditched me out of nowhere, and whilst she was nice to me for a while, here and there, I could not get over my hurt. I lost all trust for her, and "pretty words". She was always a flatterer, until she suggested that if our friendship ever ended, it would be because I'm an Aries, and she usually didn't like Aries women. So that, "I hope our friendship lasts" came as a warning to me, and I found myself backing off a bit then.

I still feel loyal, when it ends, as well.

[Violets]

Ahahhaha! Saturn in Cancer in 11th here.

I have zero issues cutting off friendships if they push the wrong buttons too many times. But, I've had some of my best friends for literally decades, so my loyalty is solid. Just don't annoy me with trivialities. 

My Saturn also squares my Pluto in 3rd.

I rarely say anything or announce it, as I dislike confrontations or bickering within my friendships. So it usually looks like so. 



They may just notice at some point that they're not a part of my life. If they ask me about it, I add extra locks.

[Violets]

Also, if it appears that very close friends have changed in some important way and happen to meander back into my life, I can forgive whatever obnoxious behavior caused me to shut the door in the first place. But that often takes years of not being around each other, which just tells me that if we're meant to be friends, we will be.

It also takes a good while for me to really consider someone a friend. I have to have respect for them, and feel respected by them. That takes time, usually. I know immediately whether or not I like or respect someone, but it takes a while to figure out if that's reciprocated proportionately. I <3 my Saturn in 11th. Sometimes.

[anela]

It takes me a while now, too.

This whole facebook thing has me wanting to shut it down. But that's why me page is mostly about TV shows, and politics now. I rarely post anything personal.

[whisperix]

Thank you very much for the responses! It is good to see that I am not the only one that looses friends over the years.

[Violets]

Nah, I think we all just change and grow, and that's the way that life is. The people who are meant to stay in our lives either stay and grow with us, or we meet again and the friendship evolves (to my way of thinking).

[whisperix]

Violets

That could be true as well.

[sven555]

It seems as if quite a few of us have our Moon in the 11th house

My Moon rules the 9th house. Strangely, the friends I have now were the friends I made when I was very young. It is almost as if we gravitated towards each other and get on so well. People have come and gone.

How do I wave goodbye? If they are nasty to me, I tend to just make sure I don't have to see them again and then let them know how I feel. There is no time in this world for timewasters or people who want to be nasty; it takes up too much brain power and time, so it is best to say byeee very quickly

[whisperix]

sven555

I like what you have said.

[Doux]

How do you wave good buy to a nasty friend?

I don't think I've had any "nasty" friends per se, but if I somehow don't want to continue the friendship/connection, it usually goes like this...



Blame my Libra influence, or something.


Generally though, I don't have such issues... Because there are very few people I consider "real" friends (Saturn in the 11H). I have some "pretty good friends" but if we're talking real, hardcore, would-die-for-you kinda friend (that probably sounds a little dramatic, oops), then... I can only think of one, maybe two people... I just usually keep some distance (emotional but even physical) with most people. And a lot of my good friends are actually people I talk to online (Aquarius on the 11H). 

[Violets]

Ahahaha. Doux, my 11th h Saturn sister(ish).

You said what I forgot to say, so I'll basically just echo your entire post.

[whisperix]

the89freespirit

It is true, but somehow I attracted people who want to be friends with you. I know that I become veeeeeeeeeeery sarcastic whenever I meet people I dislike. I make fun of them and they do not get it . Ahh well, I am not nice every single day.

[the89freespirit]

whisperix

I've definitely done the same thing in my day. I think my Scorpio Moon vibes actually get the job done, most of the time, when it comes to that. Oh, that stinger! Haha.

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I have Sun and Mercury in 11th. No I don't do that. I try my best to ignore them.

[anela]

Mar 21, 2017 10:47:45 GMT whisperix said:

the89freespirit

It is true, but somehow I attracted people who want to be friends with you. I know that I become veeeeeeeeeeery sarcastic whenever I meet people I dislike. I make fun of them and they do not get it . Ahh well, I am not nice every single day.

They might get it, but not show that they do. I know that I won't always give someone the satisfaction of getting to me. That's why people like jwhop usually don't bother me. 

[anela]

Mar 12, 2017 15:19:30 GMT Doux said:

How do you wave good buy to a nasty friend?

I don't think I've had any "nasty" friends per se, but if I somehow don't want to continue the friendship/connection, it usually goes like this...



Blame my Libra influence, or something.


Generally though, I don't have such issues... Because there are very few people I consider "real" friends (Saturn in the 11H). I have some "pretty good friends" but if we're talking real, hardcore, would-die-for-you kinda friend (that probably sounds a little dramatic, oops), then... I can only think of one, maybe two people... I just usually keep some distance (emotional but even physical) with most people. And a lot of my good friends are actually people I talk to online (Aquarius on the 11H). 

This is how I used to be. I dropped out of school, to get away from trouble-makers (although I was also suicidal, because of them). I had mum's permission to do so. I just wanted to get my school work done in peace, and not be around shitheads. 
And then trouble came to me through my sister (her husband), and I realized I couldn't hide forever. 

I never know what to think about friends, anymore. I'm protective, and I don't start things with anyone. If I have a problem, I talk about it. I'm not a back-stabber. But I had someone ditch me a few years back, because of the drama in my life. That isn't a friend, to me. I didn't burden her with everything, and she wasn't around me in person, but she put herself in the middle of something, and then ditched me. She downgraded me from a good friend, to a person who posted pretty songs that spoke to her occasionally (so I was no big loss). That's why I keep to myself a lot. That sort of thing breaks my heart.

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anela, *hugs* I can relate so much with what you've written.