Venus square Ascendant synastry

[FruityLlama]

Has anyone ever experienced this?

I have once, and whilst there was mutual attraction, we were out of sync timing wise and never got together. We were also young though. 
I have assumed that any Venus-ASC synastry would indicate physical attraction, especially because a square could come from another angular house or axis which would be important,  but some info in the net seems to imply otherwise. I would have thought a lack of attraction would be seen in no aspect at all, but then I think I've seen synastries of those in relationships without it so I am very confused. 

I have read some threads regarding the theory of it but I am interested also in experiences of it. 

Thanks

[midnight]

Hi FruityLlama
How could I miss this thread.  I don't know if it's still relevant, but I'll throw in my exprerience anyway.  

I have this aspect in a Synastry between me and my husband.  His Venus is square my Venus/Asc.  The aspect is quite wide (6 degrees), but since it's an aspect to an angle I believe it can be considered as close enough.  Actually, his Venus doesn't make any smooth aspects in our Synastry.  

Yeah, most of the articles say that this aspect may indicate a lack of attraction.  I am a fan of Cafe Astrology, I relate to most of their descriptions, so I'll quote them again, since it appears to be more accurate for me:

"You are very sensitive to one another’s feelings, tastes, and needs with this aspect. The Ascendant person embodies or personifies what the Venus person finds attractive. Romantic attraction can be strong, but this also works well in platonic relationships. There is a strong desire to please one another. If taken too far, there can be long-term challenges – spoiling and appeasing can lead to resentment and regret. "

The part about the "strong desire to please one another" is noticeable in our relationship.  Another thing, it could be our Venus/Venus square too, but a lot of times I can dress up, do my hair, make up the whole look and I just get the " you look beautiful".  Then when I just wake up in the morning with messy hair, no makeup, tank top and leggins and he showers me with compliments like "sexy momma", " wooo you're so hot", etc.  It's funny how his Venus in Sagittarius is so noticeably likes the less done-up messy look.  We are obviously attracted to each other, but I don't think I always appear the way he'd ideally want.  Good thing, I've 4 planets in Sagittarius, with Sag Uranus and Jupiter square my Venus/Asc, so experimenting with different appearances is in my nature.  

[midnight]

Another thing I've noticed is how we are in social situations. While we love stayng at home, when we are invited to go out, we usually go. My husband is much more extraverted. He loves socialising and being a part of the popular crowd. I'm, on the other hand, much more closed. While I like to chat, I prefer one-on-one situations or max a group of 3-4 people. I have a thing when I get very tired around people and I need to leave the group to "recharge". Sometimes, if I can't leave I just kinda sit quietly. It may appear I am bored or don't want to talk to anyone. It is not true. My husband used to push me to to chat to people or bring his friends over to entertain me. It is the last thing I wanted. Now I just try to leave for 10m and come back.

Our Venus/Asc square is really shown social situations. We are similar, but different at the same time.

[Ava]

Thanks for those insights midnight.

Never really thought about it but I think my Sag Venus prefers a natural, rugged look, too. I went to college with a lot of rich "pretty boy" types of guys, and they all sort of blurred together in my mind, and I wasn't attracted to them. But I have this pic of my husband in my closet, where he was young and loaded up with mountain climbing equipment, about to climb a mountain, with the wind in his hair and sun in his eyes. That's the kind of thing I like.

I don't know any early Gem or Pisces risers, not that I can think of.

College romance with a Taurus Venus guy, square my Leo ASC....that didn't really get off the ground for a number of reasons. But he's one of these guys who used me as a sounding board to let me know how much he cared about some other girl, and then oddly he seemed surprised when I moved on to date someone else. Well like I said....LEO rising. I'm not there to play second fiddle.

Still, it's fixed signs, and he left our college but came back to visit a few years later. I caught sight of him in the auditorium at an event and then was thrilled that he came right over to give me a bear hug, and he talked to me *exclusively* while other people tried to get his attention. So my Leo side was finally pacified, and all's well that ends well.

Pls don't quote, I feel bad that my examples are from so long ago.

[FruityLlama]

Bless you both for responding, I really appreciate it. It seems then that this aspect indicates attraction to some extent then, but as its the ASC-Venus, there is a mismatch maybe with how one presents themselves and the others values- and perhaps vice versa. It seems with both of your examples, there is an underlying recognition/attraction/simpatico but there is a nonlinear fashion to how this comes about. What Venus values in the ASC person makes the ASC confused or something- perhaps this aspect when experienced over time and in the most positive way could indicate loving one anothers flaws and helping each other to accept them.. what you think? Venus is literally looking at ASC from another angle so it can be weird when the ASC person realises how the Venus person sees them... ??

Ava, in light of that, may I ask...do you think Taurus venus was perhaps trying to make you jealous?

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That would be the Sag-Gemini axis for me. There's one Gemini Venus I was fatally attracted to (luckily nothing happened). The first guy I ever dated had his Sagittarius Venus almost exactly square my ASC.. I was very attracted to him, but I found his attitude repulsive: he was an unapologetic snob which led him to be extremely verbally cruel

Other than that I just seem to attracted fixed Venuses.. Scorpio, Taurus, Aquarius more than anything else.

[Ava]

FruityLlama

I like how you're exploring this!

"Venus is literally looking at ASC from another angle so it can be weird when the ASC person realises how the Venus person sees them... ??"

Sounds about right.

I don't know if he was jealous...he did seem genuinely interested in that other girl. The key thing here is, he was much better looking than me. He could have dated anyone, I think. It made no sense for us to be together. If he actually was jealous or ever wanted anything seriously with me, then yes, that would totally come from "left field," a whole other angle entirely. He belonged with someone better looking or at least more sure of herself and grounded (like an earth ASC), not attention-needy like me.

Being around him made me feel kind of ugly and self-conscious. 

Hmm...edit...

Yeah, maybe his real love life had almost nothing to do with me, but we connected anyway.

[FruityLlama]

"Being around him made me feel kind of ugly and self-conscious".

I'm sorry to hear that Ava but I guess again it sort of goes with the theory that the square makes you think strangely about yourself. I also tend to feel a bit odd around Aries Venuses even though I have one myself. The guys are attractive but they do make me feel shy and therefore very self-conscious as they typically and usually like outgoing, popular people.

athena
Yeah, again it seems there is a sort of I like you but why/you like me but why thing going on. What ASC are you may I ask? Is it Virgo (I know you have mentioned it before).

My bf's venus sextiles my ASC and I don't feel that self-conscious about my looks around him. Our attraction flows. I am sometimes self-conscious about myself as a person around him and that shows via our sun-sun square, so I guess a similar thing there too.


It also seems to be that the ASC person is often the one almost "repulsed"(athena)/"put off"(not quit the right phrase but you know what I mean, Ava)/"bemused or confused"(again apologies if you would use a different phrase to describe your experience, midnight) in spite of attraction too don't you think? 

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Totally. My current boyfriend's Venus is in an out-of-sign trine with my ASC and I think he's beautiful/he makes me feel stunning! So huge contrast there for sure.